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*ercedes_Williams
writes:Hello there!I have a little problem and i don't know how to deal with it... I'm in a serious relationship for almost one year, and so far, it's been great.However, whenever my boyfriend gets nervous, he has a terrible stomachache and can't leave the bathroom.I suppose this is normal... he's been to doctors and psychologists and they all say he's ok, but he needs to deal with this pain and it's consequences.the thing is he gets most nervous when we go out with my friends... he starts feeling pain, and then he goes to the men's room and stays there for a long time... it's kinda embarassing and unconfortable...so... i haven't gone out with my friends for over three months... i want to! i miss them... but my boyfriend feels hurt when i say i don't want him to go, specially because all my friends take their boyfriends... and if he goes, he spends the whole evening in the bathroom or sweating because of the pain. i can't help but to feel bad for him...i love this man... but i really want to go out without having to worry if he's feeling ok or spending the whole night alone because he's in the bathroom...what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, fishdish  +, writes (7 December 2012):
 Why don't you just go out without him? If he doesn't feel comfortable with them, he shouldn't be put in that position, either. Also propose that he consider seeing a psychiatrist to get anti-anxiety meds and deal with this socially-induced stress.
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reader, Candid Cally +, writes (6 December 2012):
I only know one person who would hide in bathrooms like your boyfriend does. This guy blamed his 'stomach pains' on anxiety. The truth came out months later. He didn't really have stomach pains. He was addicted to drugs, would go to the bathroom to abuse them, then he would fall asleep for sometimes up to an hour due to the effects of the drugs.
Could your boyfriend be using drugs? Opiates especially can cause stomach pains both when people use them and if they miss a dose or don't consume the drug once they are physically addicted.
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