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writes:Would you feel left out if work colleagues commented on on everyones social media posts but yours? Why/why not?I know it's stupid butsocial media is part of life now.Feel unwanted. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2017): I find people on social media have cliques. They tend to only respond to certain people. Those in their cliques. And not others.Ever notice how the ugliest of dogs post a new profile pic and they are ugly as usual and all their friends get on to say how beautiful they look and how stunning they are? And they get some ridiculous number of likes on it? REALLY???? WTF are you people seeing that I don't???To the contrary, a beautiful woman posts a pic and hardly anyone says they are beautiful and the number of likes is very low compared to the ugly ones!!YEAH, this DOES HAPPEN. Happens to me all the time. My ugly "friends" get way more likes on their pics. Trust me, they are UGLY. And mine get hardly any. They are not trashy or slutty or anything like that. So, it's almost as if everyone knows the beautiful ones don't need to hear compliments. Which is wrong. But they lie to the dogs to make them feel better??? Hmmm.I find certain people have their very own cheerleading sections. No matter what they do, they are stellar and everyone is always blowing smoke up their skirts on all their posts. Even a picture of the roast they had for dinner gets 100 likes!!!! LMAO Some people post some really intelligent and insightful posts in comparison and not a one comments or likes it. Or just very few compared to a roast pic! It is truly bizarre.I just find it all very petty. And annoying. So, it isn't just you. It's people in general.If it bothers you, I would change the audience on my posts to my close friends and exclude all the others. That way, their lack of response does not affect you because they are not privy to your posts. And they should NOT be. Clearly they are not people worth your time.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (1 July 2017):
 Are you commenting on other people's social media? When you see things on your timeline, are you an active conversation participant? When you ARE participating, are you "liking" posts, or making good observations, and all that??
You also might want to check your settings on Facebook as well (if you're referring to Facebook as opposed to instagram or snapchat or Twitter...I'm not the biggest social media user myself!). It's possible that you may accidently have "Just me" as your setting for who reads your post.
Otherwise, it's not usually likely that people actively ignore Facebook posts. They just don't have time to respond to everything that shows up on their timeline feeds. I know that I don't! I don't spend tons of time on it, so I'll "star" my close friends and family, and I'll respond if something I read is interesting, regardless of who it is doing the talking.
Maybe post some questions that people get into, like "What's your favorite summer grilling technique" or something that encourages group participation, as opposed to just posting something like "Went to the mall today" or complaining about something. Spice it up, and you'll generate interest!" If you ARE complaining about something, make it humorous!
Example #1:
"I hate it when people drive slow in the fast lane".
It's like....okay? Then what?
or
Example #2:
"To the driver of the silver SUV who did their impersonation of a snail on Quaaludes in the fast lane, KAREN CARPENTER is not the best thing to listen to if you want to maintain the speed limit! SPEED UP!!!!!"
See the difference? Both complain, but one might induce someone to commiserate with you!
Finally, if you're a political poster, some people actively ignore politics on their feed. I for one hate it! I have friends from every political stance, and some of them I had to mute their feeds during this past year's US Election because it was driving me absolutely insane!
If you want interest and friendliness, you have to BE interested, interesting, and friendly! Be what you want to see on social media!
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (1 July 2017):
 Yes it is stupid as N91 says. There may be many reasons why your posts don't get a comment. Perhaps they don't need one. Perhaps they are not wanted.
Try dropping out of social media and trying life without it. You say it is part of life now, but that is only because you let it be. You are afraid of being left out.
If the only way you will be included is by posting on social media then you are just a hanger-on. If people like you they will want to include you. Work on that.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (1 July 2017):
 Please seek therapy. You're too old to have this issue. This is something that is understandable for insecure teens, but you're a fully grown adult. I understand why you want to feel included; that's ageless, but social media isn't worth anything. You need to come off of it altogether if you can't handle it without feeling left out.
Focus more on building those relationships in person if you want friendships.
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reader, N91 +, writes (1 July 2017):
 You're right, it is stupid.
How do people let social media become this important?
I think physical relationships are MUCH more important and if you feel the other way around then I think you need time away from Facebook.
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