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writes:Hi there,I am a 18 (soon to be 19) years old. This year, i decided to carry on an extra year at my sixth form to improve my grades, instead of going straight to uni. I have been put in a physics class with a new teacher, who i think i am really falling for...He's 26, and an amazing guy. As there's only 4 of us in his class, and the other 3 hardly talk, so i spend most our lessons talking to him one on one. Our conversations can range from physics to our lives to the most random of things. I feel like i know a lot about him, just as he does me, and we really relate. I know that many students who have feelings for their teachers usually feel this because they admire their level of authority or how knowledgeable they are, but this is not the case with me. Despite him being my teacher, i view him as more of an equal (i think that's how he tries to make us view him), and i am attracted to his sense of humour and our common interests, just as i would be with someone my own age... just without the immaturity and excessive drinking and partying (this is a coming-of-age thing which i never understood, nor wanted to take part in)Please don't get me wrong, i wouldn't DREAM of trying to start anything while i'm still his student. I understand that schools have strict rules about these things, despite me being over 18, and i would never want to put his job at risk. I would just like to know if possibly, after i finish his class, i could maybe try to initiate something more with him, such as giving him my number... i would fully understand if he didn't reciprocate my feelings, but i know if i don't make the first move, he probably never will, as he's the teacher.Thanks a lot
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reader, Starlights +, writes (12 October 2013):
 I dont see anything wrong if after you finish his class and leave the school you give him his number and keep his friendship.
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reader, ModelCitizen +, writes (12 October 2013):
I don't see why not, provided it's once you have left 6th form altogether. The fact you are over 18 and there voluntarily makes this much different to normal student/teacher crushes in my opinion. If you met him on a night out there wouldn't be a problem right?! The only thing I would say is that if something does develop between you right after you leave he might still be open to suspicion with people who believe something was going on before that. I don't know if that could get him into trouble or not? So maybe take it slow to begin with. Anyway good luck to you with both your crush and your extra studies :)
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reader, Miss.Cupid  +, writes (12 October 2013):
 having crushes on teachers is a common thing, throughout school I myself had maybe teacher crushes. like you've stated. I do respect the fact that you want to at least wait til school is in fact over. I believe love does in fact come in unexpected placed, I don't want you to feel as though it is simply impossible to be involved with a teacher. I do however feel that you provided him your number maybe wouldn't be the best idea?. try an email address. if there is an assignment that's due, or skip a class and ask him to email you. an email is within school guidelines and its a great way to communicate with teachers. try it that way, maybe it does in fact turn into exchanging phone numbers. good luck.
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