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Would it be OK to date my ex-husband's cousin?

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Question - (29 September 2005) 6 Answers - (Newest, 18 August 2010)
A female , anonymous writes:

I am a recently divorced. My question is, is it OK for me to date my ex husband's cousin?

He and I have been really good friends for 4 years and we want to take it to the next level. What are your thoughts on this and how should we go about going public with it? By the way we have already been accused of it although nothing has ever happened. Thank You.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010):

No matter how you look at it, it's wrong. I don't care if they say it's okay or if people will look at you strangely and gossip, it's just plain wrong. Would you like it if the tables were turned? You need to realize that though you were friends before you met your now ex-husband, you need to move on and find someone else new. This cousin of his is like clutch and it's safe for you because he's someone you can talk to and someone you feel comfortable with. You are vulnerable. Heck, if you were suppose to be wiht him in the first place, you would have married him and not your ex. Don't let this keep you from the one true person you are suppose to be with and that's someone out there. And don't get into another relationship right away...what is this? A rebound deal?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2006):

Yes! There is no problem with dating your ex's cousin. I went threw the same agony, for 10 years I was madly in love with Danny, and he was married, so was I, so two years after I was divorced, and a few months after his wife left him, we started to date and the gossip was out of control, but 4 years later he and I have become a happy family and the rude comments have faded into just your every day family members. You don't choose love it chooses you!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2005):

I'm going through my ex husband dating my 1st cousin. No, it's not a jealousy thing, I left him for a reason, however it does hurt and it does ruin family relationships.

Go meet someone new.

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A reader, emah +, writes (30 September 2005):

I am speaking from experience. You will be happier to meet a new family If things get serious you end up going to family functions of the same family but a different man. Just find a new guy new family and a new start. People wont be jealous they will be shocked at this and they WILL talk, stare, and judge you I was never one for caring what other people think but that was hard to ignore. I guess it depends how much you really want to be with him or if its just easier than finding a new boyfriend

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A female reader, LEXI8580 +, writes (30 September 2005):

If he makes you happy then go for it. We only have one life and if we spend it worrying what other people think then everyone would be miserable. People always want something to gossip about and probably will talk about you for a few days but then it will be yesterdays news, just dont let it bother you. Its your life!! Goodluck

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A reader, pops +, writes (30 September 2005):

Why wouldn't it be okay to date your ex-husband's cousin? Stop obsessing about the busybodies of the world, and go find your own happiness. If tongues wag, its because they are jealous that you can find someone new after your divorce, and they haven't. Ignor them.

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