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writes:Ok I have a dilemma. Ive met a wonderful man I just feel absolutely amazing when im with him. Hes just one of those men who really wants to make his woman happy. I dnt mean like a whimp but like a real man would want. BUT, HE LIVES IN PENNSYLVANIA and I LIVE IN SC. He has two children and his a barber. We met on the beach and we were together for 3days and it was amazing. Hes 30 and im 21 and hes already asked me to.come and see what should I do?... Ive never just hoped on a plane and flew that far to meet someone. Also im kind of involved with someone and I would never want to hurt him but he recently told me tht because I dnt have my life together we cant go any futher. Hes also the type of man thats totally different from.the man I just met because he totally knows how to sweep me off my feet. So what should I do? Im confused I dnt know if im making a huge mistake and running after a fling. Gosh I really need some help!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (27 June 2012):
 SC to PA is not that bad. It’s doable as a temporary LDR…
The age gap is not big (9 years) but the life stages are a bit off (21 to 30 is a big difference for many)
I think you need to end the old relationship as quickly and cleanly as possible before you pursue the new relationship. He’s not happy (he’s talked of ending it) and you are not happy if you were able to be distracted that much by a new man… nothing wrong with that just saying that the old relationship has probably run it’s course.
As for the new guy and an LDR, go slow… do not meet the kids yet… plan to visit each other…
PA is lovely and nice men do come from there… my fiancé was living in PA when we met… we had an LDR for about a year… then he left PA and moved to MD to be with me… on your way to PA wave at us!
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reader, Tonya A +, writes (27 June 2012):
Tonya A is verified as being by the original poster of the question Umm excuse me I think you read into what I was saying way to far.... Because im sure that my column didnt say anything,about sex in any shape or form. I was simply saying that the chemistry that I had with this person was amazing. But thnx for your advice anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2012): So you just Kinda cheated on your current boyfriend?You just met a man on the beach...a stranger really...and had the most amazing sex for 3 days...did you even stop to think about sexually transmitted diseases? Any thoughts on HIV?Haul your ass to a clinic for a few random tests.
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reader, ImmortalPrincess +, writes (23 June 2012):
 I think if the relationship you are currently in, has no future, then you should definitely end it before hooking up with someone else.
As far as this new man goes, I wouldn't run off to Pennsylvania just yet. Take some time to get to know him, first. Talk on the phone, sype, e-mail......whatever, but so far you only have three days with him and that isn't enough time to really know someone. You also need to make sure that he isn't married.
Invest a little time, get to know him, before you make any life changing decisions.
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