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anonymous
writes:I just came back from several months there, and I had the time of my life. I arranged a place to stay for cheap but wound up visiting a friend that I'd made beforehand and, long story short, his parents invited me to stay there for the duration of my trip! No joke!Well, before I went there there was no sexual tension between us whatsoever. He had a girlfriend and was very proud of that, and I absolutely respected it. However, once I went there we wound up doing the deed several times a week. At one point, he went through some of the pictures I'd taken and sent his girlfriend a few of them, and in one of them my foot was in the picture. Busted!Anyway, so I'm assuming it's only a matter of time before they break up. She's already talking about it, and they're only 19 anyway, so surely they will at some point or another. As far as I'm concerned, the guy is only after a green card. His brother did the exact same thing. Besides, if he really was in love with her he wouldn't be sleeping around and flirting with pretty much anything that walks. And I KNOW that I am NOT going to change this guy----quite frankly, when I was overseas last year for several months I wound up getting into a relationship and realized that he was only after a green card, and I swear to god I will NEVER let that happen to me again. I've sworn off foreign men that don't at least already have a card for anything more than a FWB, lol. But anyway, long story short, I had the TIME OF MY LIFE in Jamaica. All the while, I did not feel like I was developing feelings for him. And I'm more than confident that I'm not his type for anything regular. But when I left, I felt an unbelievable sadness. Granted, it's only been 3 days since I've been home but I've been thinking about it a lot. Next year is the last year I can go abroad like this for several months at a time, and I'm considering Jamaica. It's a whole lot cheaper to fly there compared to the other places I've been to, after all, and I already have a free place to stay, free food, and a very warm welcome should I decide to go back. I'm staying with some of my Jamiacan friends for a few days in the States, and they're convinced that I want to go back because I'm in love, and that if I go back I'm going to wind up throwing away my future because I won't be able to stand being away from the guy. It really freaked me out when they said that. Can't lie. I know in my heart that the guy is an absolute sleeeeeeaaaazzzzzeeeeeeball in just about every way, he's really conceited, he's got some personal views that I really don't agree with, he doesn't have a job, etc etc etc and I'd like to think that I'll have it in me to turn this guy away SHOULD he make a move if I went back.But I can't deny how sad I felt when I left. Making matters worse, like I was saying earlier, I'm fairly confident he wouldn't have a girlfriend then anymore.Next spring is my last year where I can go abroad for free before graduating college. Would I have to be stupid to go back to Jamaica?
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reader, dirtball +, writes (1 April 2011):
 Haha, I remember you. I think it would be a fun trip, but you'll have to be careful with this guy. You'll likely have another fling with him while you're there, and feelings do get involved whether you deny them or not.Really though, as long as you realize what your true priorities are, you could have a lot of fun. Having a free place to stay, and all the other stuff that make the trip that much more affordable will also make it that much more enjoyable. So, I think that unless another alternative becomes available, there's no harm in going back.You may need to do some soul searching to make sure you can handle what may come your way if this guy does make a move. Remember, he cheated on his GF with you, and he won't hesitate to do the same to you if given the chance.
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