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Worried that my boyfriend may be going off me...

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Question - (31 January 2007) 3 Answers - (Newest, 31 January 2007)
A female United Kingdom, anonymous writes:

Hi everyone

Sorry if i drone on in this but i really want some help please

My bf and i have been together just over 6 months He is my first ever bf and im in my early 20's

We used to be long distance as he was away with work a lot but now he is closer with work I now see him most days although i try to make 1-2 days/nights a week when i dont go over as i know he likes his own space

Last night i was round there and he said almost nothing all night and i am real worried Is he going off me I asked him if anything was wrong and he said no I had a bad dream in the night that he was seeing someone else my mind was just doing overtime

When we were LD we showed each other a lot of affection in texts and in person but i feel this is wearing off a lil now and am worried

This morning was ok and we had a lil cuddle and kiss but i cant stop worrying Im seeing him tonight and he is going away for the weekend to see his kids who live far away with his ex

I havent met them yet I understand not to push that as that decision has got to be up to him only

I feel really down about the whole thing and just want him to be happy with me again Maybe last night was a one off but like i said iv never beeen in a relationship before so dont understand how it works I dont know which questions are appt to ask and which are not

I just dont wanna loose him No one has ever been as great to me as he is I dont wanna smother him

Are one or two nights apart a week ok? Does anyone else think i should be worried I hope i got my points accross ok I just cant seem to think stragiht

Thanks everyone

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2007):

I have to agree i think you could be spending too much time together as you have said he does like his own space and is just 1 or 2 nights apart a week enough to give him his own space and at the same time does it give you enough time to spend with your friends or do things you used to like doing before the relationship?I can understand you want to be with him 24/7 but this could make the relationship turn stale and fizzle out.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2007):

I think 1/2 nights apart is not really enough for a healthy relationship at the stage you two are. I think if you saw eachother less, you'd want to see eachother more, which would make the times together alot better.

You both need to have your own lives with friends, work etc.. as well as a relationship.

Just my two cents!

Good luck with the relationship

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A female reader, frizzylizzy Ireland +, writes (31 January 2007):

frizzylizzy agony auntHi, I think you are worrying too much. Ye have to get used to seeing each other so much. Maybe he was just tired last night and didn't have much to say. You need to relax a but and enjoy the relationship and stop looking for problems where there are none. It sounds like he does like you so chill out. I think 1 or 2 nights apart is fine. You also need your space and you don't need to be with him every night... Hope this makes you feel a bit better. You need to be a bit more confident in the relationship and not worry so much!!

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