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writes: my partner has cheated before and i took him back. i have caught him out with other lies again. even lying to me about why he has stripppers ph numbers. i question him about things and he yells at me and says he is sick of being question and accused. I feel there might be another woman as he says sex last thing on his mind at the moment. yet vey strang jekle and hyde behaviour. loves me one minute hates me the next. and i keep wanting to believe him. he has himself in trouble and says i will be the one who puts him in his grave because im so gullible and nieve. feel he is guilty again and turning on me to make me feel bad. Reply to this Question
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reader, aela  +, writes (18 August 2010):
 I've found in my life that it is best to trust you instinct. Often when I suspect something I simply pray that God will open doors for me and let the truth be discovered and often times after that prayer I don't even have to look before I find it.
You have trust issues for obvious reasons. He probably won't change unless he wants to and then takes the steps to become a healthy person. As much as you may want it, as much as he may promise it, until he is healthy - you won't have a healthy relationship. Trust your gut!
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reader, aela +, writes (18 August 2010):
I've found in my life that it is best to trust you instinct. Often when I suspect something I simply pray that God will open doors for me and let the truth be discovered and often times after that prayer I don't even have to look before I find it.
You have trust issues for obvious reasons. He probably won't change unless he wants to and then takes the steps to become a healthy person. As much as you may want it, as much as he may promise it, until he is healthy - you won't have a healthy relationship. Trust your gut!
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (16 August 2010):
 just from the small description you gave it sounds like he's most definitely cheating.
my father cheated on my mother and they were together for awhile before my mom faced reality. I hadn't known this until they divorced, however while growing up I witnessed fights between the two. my mom would simply ask who certain people were in his cell phone and my dad would over react and accuse of of being a jealous bitch.reality was that he was cheating on her and he wanted to turn the table on her.
either way, a love/hate relationship isn't healthy. Even if he's not cheating on you, he's not treating you with respect. Consider that please. No girl deserves to be treated like trash.
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