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writes:So my girlfriend and I have had sex twice, but the first time she was in a lot of pain (she was a virgin) and I lost my erection about 20 minutes into it because I was moving slower for her and if I went to far into her she would tell me to stop. Which of course I did because I hated seeing her in pain... We had sex a second time and this time I came 5 minutes into it. I have had one other sexual partner in the past and it took me about 30 minutes to cum last time... Now another problem is she gets me hard very quickly with out doing much so when I hang with her in about 4 hours it is hard for me to get a erection because I already had one for so long... But sometimes we have to wait 3 to 4 hours before we have privacy.next time we have sex I was wondering if there was any processes to which I can prevent my self from cumming to early? Of course i will wear a condom just in case that makes any difference to you answer.ALSO will I stay erect even after cumming?Thank you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you very much :) i will talk with her some more and see what she wants. and thanks for answering back everyone really thank you. :)
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reader, Shawn_W  +, writes (26 January 2009):
I wholeheartedly agree with satindesire. The first few times that I had sex, I had no clue what I was doing beyond the obvious. You said that you've had another partner before your current girlfriend, so my suggestion is to think about the differences in the ways that both of your partners have reacted. Don't just think about it from the perspective of "This is how I reacted". Think of what you did with both of your partners, how they reacted, and what you did in response to that. Also, ask your girlfriend, before, during, and after, if what you're doing feels good for her. If it doesn't, stop doing it, but if it does, keep doing it. However, don't be afraid to try new things. Just make sure that you've given yourselves enough time to get comfortable with one another, or you may never find that happy medium.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (26 January 2009):
 Here's your answer: Listen, you've only had sex twice! I think that when both you and your girlfriend have found your "groove" together, you'll have a little more control over when you're finishing. It seems like both times you've been in the sack, you haven't exactly been on the same wave length. So, once you've done it a few more time and you've gotten comfortable with each other and she's gotten more adjusted to you and sex, you'll be much better at being together.
As for whether or not you'll stay erect after sex, well mostly no, you won't. Take a breather, let your men-meat cool off and you can get on to Round Two in maybe 20 minutes.
Don't worry about it, you'll be fine once you find your groove. If you're not fine after Sex Session #10, come back and ask again!
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