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writes: hi. im 16 this yr. is it a right time to start dating?i dunno. cos i like this guy from my church, B. he's um, 18 this yr, andreally sweet. however i jus go over a guy liked from school so i dunnowhether this crush is jus..well, something to get over the guy fromschool. but im pretty sure i've gotten over the guy from school.anyway, B has been really nice to me but i dunno whether he likes me ornot. he is always there for me when i need him and is super patient. healso messages me things such as "dear how have u been?". if it was anotherguy i would immediatly think he likes me but i think its pretty common forthe guys in my church to use endearment terms such as that. im reallyconfused now. mmm.. he doesnt call though n only messages me without mestarting the conversation a few times. mm. how would i be sure whether helikes me?shucks i think i sound like a bimbo.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2006): I think 16 years is a good age to date. You aren't too young and fast becoming an adult and are better able to discern what makes you happy and what matters to you in life.
It is 'normal' to have crushes. I had a long standing one on one of the boys from my church as well. I also liked others but not like I liked this one boy.
It faded over time and was replaced by another.
As I became older, crushes weren't happening so much and especially since I was married. Who I am with is the one who is the only main character in my dreams and fantasies.
He must like you as he is nice to you and messages you. Just it is hard to determine if it is out of friendship or other.
Just let it be; give it time.
If you can not wait, perhaps suggesting there is a new movie you would like to see and would he like to join? Or how about go out with a group of friends?
Good Luck.
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reader, camille  +, writes (29 August 2006):
 You're not a bimbo, but it sounds like you're wanting a relationship as you're about to turn 16 and have just gotten over the boy from school. Don't go looking for it, let it happen. Don't rush, see how things go. Get to know him better and see if you can hang out with him away from church. After a while you may be able to tell if he has feelings for you. As you're still only 15, he may think that's too young as sometimes people feel the age gap closes once you have turned 16/17.
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