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writes: My ex has been in and out of relationships since we split up. He is now 35, slpit up with someone after 18 monthes together then three monthes later meets another one and marries her ten monthes later. Is this marriage likely to last if he was on the rebound??
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi and thanks to the last two posters thoughts, i appreciate that really his marriage may well last even if it is a rebound relationship. Ti6er i appreciate your input as you have had he experience to know and i guess that you are admitting it was a rebound due to your first wifes infedelity but you have worked hard to make the second one work and for the love to grow between you both.
And yes only time will tell and there is no point me waiting around to see if it does or not. Thanks again to the last two posters,ti6er,caring guy and goodytwoshoes!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2010): What are you people on, of course it is a rebound relationship and caring guy is right this man sounds like he just cant be on his own, hardly a basis for being with someone is it. Unless he married her for love, which doesnt seem to be the case here then eventually one or the other will realise. I dont think marriages are always honkey dorey either and the divorce rate is at it's highest so i think you are looking at marriages with rose tinted glasses if you seriously think that it is always a massive perk to have a ring on your finger, i know many people who feel trapped and who think they made a huge mistake........time will tell on this.
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reader, Ti6er  +, writes (15 January 2010):
Rebound marriage last, I'm was in a rebound marriage as well, so far so good and I've learn to love her the way I loved my ex-wife. My rebound wife has learned to love me the way I was once loved by my ex-wife. Granted I've been through trails and tribulation with this rebound marriage, but so far we have work out our difference and learned to love one another and make the other one happy. I’ve learned a lot from my previous marriage that I’ve taken the good and leave behind the bad, to better my new rebound marriage. Most of all, I didn’t want it to fail because I now my ex-wife would be thrill to know that I’ve fail my new marriage and it would signify and justify her reasons why she cheated and left me for another guy.
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reader, goodytwoshoes  +, writes (14 January 2010):
Hi there, it's okay and i understand where you are coming from, Tact seems to be lacking with the anonymous opinions, even if they say they are meaning well, i would be upset too if i read what they had put, especially the last anonymous message. Come on people where is your empathy!! Best of luck though and hope that you got something out of posting your question :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell if you was trying to understand me then you didnt try very hard did you, 'he doesnt love you, he's having hot sex with his new wife, blah blah blah' you sound like your really trying to understand how i feel.....NOT.
Thankyou to missgoodytwoshoes, who is at least giving her opinion without saying he still loves me and it's all a big mistake on his behalf. But you and the other anonymous posters and i seriously doubt that it any more than just the one person posting them, bye bye, not interested in your posts, you are anonymous because you know your advice is not all that, but im still rating you regardless x
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2010): Hey you, I posted this one "i am another anon :........its not what you want to hear but its all i got right now for you." I was actually trying to understand you, your loving this man. seems like you just did not get it. instead you decided to misread what i read, and now appear rude to ALL of us. WTF, why are you so angry, just so angry. well from your very own mystic healer, learn to love yourself since this man doesn't. btw, if you use that tone and attitude with this guy hey no wonder he ran away from you. how i am sure you are really pissed!!!!!!!!
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reader, goodytwoshoes +, writes (13 January 2010):
Hiya, From what you have put i dont think that it sounds like he has married for all the right reasons at all. Reading what you have said, he had a plan to marry at he age he said, he told his daughter he married out of loneliness and lets face it marrying soon after your last parent died doesnt exactly mean he was in the right frame of mind. I dont know about you both and of course at this present time that isnt an option anyhow but if he has been in and out of relationships since you both split up then he doesnt sound to be the settling down type.I agree with you about the other posts, 'what do you care', well i can see that it is obvious why you care, because you wouldnt be posting this question if you didnt still have feelings for him and that is your choice. But really whether this is a rebound relationship or not, only time will tell, i hope you can embrace your own life and look to the future, whether or not he is part of it or not, only time will tell on that one. Lastly i dont agree that all marriages are great and certainly they do not always last forever nor are they necessarily filled with hot sex and perfect happiness far from it, so get real ms anonymous, what you have out is not accurate at all on that score, Best of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo your mystic meg now are you? That's all you have to offer, well that's your opinion and as for hours of hot sex, hardly, he works away most of the year and only comes back every four monthes for two weeks and has my daughter a week of that. But i have learnt from posting this that asides from Caring guy i have to sift through a lot of so called agony aunts who actually dont have any idea and when a sentence starts with 'what do you care' i dont read past this first line.
Anonymous bunch, you havent got a clue and calling yourself agony aunts is really laughable, apart from the last one who sounds to be some kind of psychic reader.
Thanks again to Caring guy, to the rest la la la, not interested in your opinions!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2010): i am another anon :
why do you care? because you love him and maybe you either want closure or maybe you still want to hang around hoping that he made a mistake.
babes, i think he is not coming back. please do not put your life on hold hoping , praying. while you live a lonely life he is making sweet whoopie with his new bride, hours of hot sex, playing house, becoming friends with his wife, enjoying all the benfits that married life offers. whatever the reason was, he married her. end of story. its sad that you both could not work it out but please value yourself , love yourself enough to move on. he has.
its not what you want to hear but its all i got right now for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo the last poster on here, why do feel the need to say why do you care? well i have to ask you what is it to you that i do care? I do end of and i dont need to answer myself on that point to you or anyone else. And why are you all posting anonymously barring one person, is this the same person responding with different points?
No he married at thirty five, just as he told me that would be the age he would want to get married and this woman is not the one, she came along just at the right time, rebound, parents passing away, feeling lonely so got married. Caring guy thankyou for your comment, without the usual 'why do you care' thrown in at the start. To some of the other so called different posters on here, you are not here to ask the questions, or to judge, i asked a question so next time try just answering it, if that is what you are on here for!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2010): Who knows, and frankly - why do you care!??
My sister-in-law got divorced and her ex met a young girl and married her. The ex and my sister-in-law have 3 kids together, so she knows what's going on. We didn't think it would last, but so far so good.
My ex is still married to the looser she left me for, which frankly I don't understand, but if she's happy that's all that matters- I'm happy for her and more so for myself, because my life got better as well, and so should yours!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes i still have feelings for him and he told my daughter he married her because he was lonely, married her six monthes after his mum died and his dad had died two years prior to that. But we were arguing a lot at the time so a reconciliation was not on the agenda and i wouldnt do anything now he is married. But yes he married her after splitting up with a so called serious girlfreind had split up three monthes prior to this one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2010): Why does it matter to you? If you still have feelings for him and hope his marriage would fair so that you could have a shot with him again - that would be understandable. However, back to the original question , it really depends on his current wife. Rebound relationships sometimes work, sometimes don't - just like any other relationship. Only time will tell..
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (12 January 2010):
If he's on the rebound, probably not. Sounds to me like he's a bit of a mess to be honest. Rebound relationships can go on for a while, but sooner or later the cracks appear, as they will here.
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