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writes: I have a question:My husband like porn. And certain things that the women there either do, or have done to them.He has mentioned to me stuff that "might be intersting" to do. (That he obviously got from watching this stuff.) Mild bondage and some anal experimentation. Anyway, some of it I was ok with, and other things did not turn out well! LOL. But he seems to want more.So the other day he mentions that he wants to cum all over my face. I was just not in the mood of having to wash my hair again afterwards and declined. We had sex without that. Which we both enjoyed, and he didnt seem too broken up about my refusal.But today i am just thinking...To me that seems a little degrading, Being masturbated on over your face. Why does it have such an attraction for him? Does it really mean he disrespects me? (Although we have a fairly good relationship). Dont men look at porn and think girls who allow all that or do some weird things are really just sluts? And although they have fantasies about these girls, they want to rather settle down with a decent girl? My question is, I guess, whether my husband will deep down think i am a slut if i keep saying yes to all the things he suggests?
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reader, softtouchmale2003  +, writes (16 August 2009):
 If he trusted you enough to ask you about it, I think he wants you to try it with him. So I would say he's just trying to spice things up. Of course if he knows your limits, he should respect them. Its when he doesn't respect your limits that you might have some trust issues there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2009): So long as you and your husband are having an honest and open relationship you should be fine. You too need to talk to each other and explore your fantasys. So long as neither of you have a fantasy that will hurt the other you should feel free to try new things. If you like something add it to the menu, if EITHER of you don't -it's off the menu. If you can tolerate letting him shoot a load on your face every now and then... then let him. It's not meant to demine - I for one NEVER think that what I've seen in a porno is demining... I think that the girls are fun loving and having a good time - but then I don't like porn where the woman doesn't appear to be enjoying herself.Relax and get playful - and get honest too - if you're not game for something talk it out, and if there's a possiblity that one day you MIGHT be game, tell him... just make sure that he understands that constantly pestering you to do something will cool you off, not warm you up!GOOD LUCK!
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reader, r0ckah0l1c +, writes (15 August 2009):
I don't think so, I think he'll just be a very happy man. I let my fiance cum on my face before and it didn't get in my hair and I didn't feel the least bit degraded, he is always very caring a respectful towards me.
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reader, a spades a spade  +, writes (15 August 2009):
honestly? only say yes to the things you're curious about too.
if he didn't seem to cut up then he probably wasn't. Its kinda natural just to try things out and he's probaby just going with, the dont - ask dont get motto.
but as i was saying, if he suggests something you like the sound of then go for it! you're bound to at least have a laugh about it. and remember that if you're going along with his suggestions, you are more than entitled to make a few of your own! :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2009): I don't think anyone here can give you a decent answer to that without knowing your husband. In fact, probably only your husband can answer it, and if he really is looking for something degrading you won't get an honest one.
There are lots of long-married couples who try new things for each other. Maybe it's trying a fantasy for real, maybe it's stroking a kink, whatever. If the relationship is solid they leave it in the bedroom chalked up to experience one way or the other. They don't think less of their partner because of it.
I have to confess that I just don't get the facial thing. Maybe someone who does can better answer whether the thrill behind it is in degrading a woman.
Your concern is a valid one, particularly when you describe your relationship as "fairly good." So talk to him. See if you can figure out what's turning him on by the idea. And don't do anything you're not comfortable with.
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