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Will I ever be able to swallow?

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Question - (11 May 2009) 15 Answers - (Newest, 15 May 2009)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hi, I am 19, and my boyfriend is 21. We have been dating for a long time (almost 4 years) and we have recently started experimenting orally. He says that the sexiest thing would be if he could watch me swallow afterwards.

I do enjoy performing orally, but for some reason I simply can't let him ejaculate in my mouth, let alone swallow. I have attempted this twice and was sorely disappointed that I gagged and almost threw up both times, having to spit it out onto his stomach, causing him to become worried that I was choking and therefore ruining the afterglow.

I always feel so bad after this happens and wish that there was some way I could get past it. Is there anything that I can do to overcome this predicament or am I just doomed to never be able to pleasure him the way that I long to?

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A male reader, pure shade 5 United States +, writes (15 May 2009):

pure shade 5 agony auntme and my wife had this problem when we were datting she tryed and just ended up spitting it out so she told me that she just cant to it i mean i dont blame her not everyone can she we tryed a few things out like keeping tissues by the bed for when i do and she just spits it out in there and we just go on and we ever tryed on her face i would warn her when i feel like i am about to cum then she would put it by her face and we would go from there i mean u could try deepthrought but swallowing aint for everyone

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2009):

As soon as he is about to cum. Stick it back in your throat and start to swallow, its comes out in squirts so just start to swallow close your eyes!!!.. Then it wil be done, after words drink some water or brush your teeth..

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A reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2009):

hmm i dont like the taste of it and sometimes have that gag reflex, so i try to let it aim to the far back of my throat, missing my tastebuds. I usually dont taste it that way and it all works out. try it, maybe it will help you.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2009):

I'd recommend sucking on antiseptic throat lozenges on a night when you know you'll be swallowing - it contains a mild anaesthetic that seems to numb the 'gag reflex'. (Works for me!)

Cum basically consists of protein and sugar - its completely harmless, and though not exactly up there with bottles of Chateau Lafite in the taste stakes, it's not TOO bad. Juat think of it as a delicious expression of how much you want him, and swallow it all in one gulp, that way it'll bypass most of your taste buds. Also, try to look and act as if you love it, or the effect will be ruined somewhat.

You say you long to do it, so it's not like you've any objection to the idea - it just takes a bit of practice. If you just CAN'T swallow it at all, you can still let him cum in your mouth, just hold it there and make a quick exit to spit it out, or discreetly empty it into a tissue. There's also the option of letting him shoot on your face - not for everyone, but if you're into it, he'll love it.

You can also make sure he drinks lots of water, which may produce a more bland cum.

Hope this helps, have fun!

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A female reader, misswalston United States +, writes (13 May 2009):

misswalston agony auntHoney, I am an expert in swallowing. This is what you do.... Try putting something fruity on his penis while you are having oral sex. They have all of these flavorful oils and creams in the shops. That way all of the fruity tastes will be in your mouth and when he ejaculates just act like you are drinking your favorite drink so you control the flow when it shoots out. You have to take control girl, work those muscles in your mouth and also let your mind go to freaky thoughts, talk to him, do whatever it takes to make it pleasurable to you so you can pleasure him in that way. Trust me, if you can do this, he will love you long time!!!!!!!!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009):

Crack up at the anonymous female below this post!! But your post explains my experience too however I never swallow. I told the bf that I didn't like the taste as it made me want to gag and that if he doesn't want to swallow it first then I ain't going to either.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2009):

Guaranteed way to make him understand WHY you can never swallow? Keep it in your mouth, then go up and kiss him and push it into his mouth. If he freaks out say what? You are the one who loves your cum, I hate it, you expect ME to eat it you should love eating it yourself!

He will never ask again...unless it backfires and he actually does love his own cum! hahahahaa

Anyway, pineapple juice is what makes cum taste better. But it still doesn't make it taste good.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2009):

The only embarassing thing I did was try to deep throat my ex and ended up vomiting all over his balls!

I dont like swallowing it either to be honest its salty and gross. however you could try and have a bottle of water next to the bed then swallow it then take a drink washing the taste away. dont keep it in your mouth though otherwise you may vomit with the salty taste. i do recommend the more fruit in the diet too though as its supposed to make it taste better. ive never tried so i cant say if it works or not.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2009):

Work on your deepthroating skills, and tell him not to warn you when he's about to cum. Then, when he does cum, his semen will right down your throat, and you won't taste a thing!

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A male reader, DoubleM United States +, writes (11 May 2009):

DoubleM agony auntWell, as "niki20" suggests, fruit and fruit drinks help improve flavor, but sperm and semen is typically rather salty and sometimes bitter, I'm told. I've released thousands of times for ladies over some 40 years or so, and only one ever complained about it being bitter. Pineapple and/or pineapple juice is supposedly the better flavor-enhancer. He should consume beginning about 24-hours prior to the blow job. Remember that, if your man is healthy and free of STDs, his juice is actually good for you - even nutritious and nonfattening.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2009):

Some man like to ejaculate in mouth but they usually don't care about swallowing - they do have to respect the partner's preferences as well. Don't swallow if you don't like it.

You probably don't want to let him ejaculate in your mouth because you're worried what happens afterwards, because you feel you can't control it. I enjoy the taste but if you don't, bring a handkerchief or a towel near you, and after you have done fellatio you can delicately spit the fluids in there. No mature man can be upset by this. After you have done this you can continue with the gentle, loving kisses...

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A female reader, meg2989 United States +, writes (11 May 2009):

meg2989 agony auntThe only thing I can really tell you is just dont think about it when he cums in your mouth, just know that hes coming and swallow before you taste as much. It has quite a bitter aftertaste, but cum is an aquired taste. I hope that helps some! good luck sweetie!

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A female reader, mrs.smith81608 United States +, writes (11 May 2009):

Semen is a taste of none other. This is what I do, because I don't particularly like the taste of it myself. Before performing oral sex, bring something to drink immediately afterward. Don't tell your guy that its what it's for, but as soon as he ejaculates, swallow immediately then get a BIG swig of whatever you've brought with you. Don't let the semen get near the tastebuds on your tongue which means keep him as far in as you can-if you deep throat it-do that. If not, keep him in until he's finished, giving him about 20 seconds after orgasm, then immediately swallow it down, and drink drink drink. Hope this wasn't too explicit, and it helps you.

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A female reader, Let's Talk United States +, writes (11 May 2009):

You may never be able to swallow!!! When having sex, a rule of thumb is, do what you are comfortable with. If this is not what you want to do, say that to your boyfriend. If he loves you, he will reconsider your feelings. When you feel badly about what you are doing sexually, it is a sign that this does not give you pleasure. If you continue this for his pleasure, you will soon start to avoid sex at all with him. In my opinion, this type of pleasure should be one that you initiate.

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A female reader, niki20 United States +, writes (11 May 2009):

niki20 agony aunttheres an old wifes tale that says if a man has more fruit in his diet his cum will taste better. cum is really salty and thats why women gag, mention the texture as well. so next time your man reaches for salty fries, offer him a platter of fresh fruit instead. i dont know if this works but you can give it a try to see if it works. i hope so. goodluck.

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