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writes:Right a quick question as its bothering me, If you could please help, a few years back I was with a girl of 5 years. We was in our teens, and had a nice relationship got along, was nice and. Very sexually active. Anyway towards the end I got depressed and went self centered a bit, and stopped seeing her as much and stopped being as intimate with her, part of me was also bored of the routine as.. it wasn't animalistic if u know what I mean. Anyway 3 months went on like this, I realised I had been daft, went to her new apartment only to find she had moved a bloke in.. ( she had only lived their for 4 months ) now I feel an idiot for this and not man enough, even though I know, if I felt the urge to go with some else , I would of told her.. basically will I always feel an idiot for this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't think that bloke did like me hanging around , only problem is she wouldn't leave me a lone for a year after the break up. I think she has always left me hanging or not given me a answer to why she had done it. Then she spent time hunting me down .lol I guess I tricked myself into believing in true. Love yet really is just a connection you get with someone.. lol you saying that bloke, I remember one day he rang me sayin why don't u leave her alone, I told him all the things she told me and that she won't leave me alone lol. the day after I had her phoning me again.. shame don't feel I will meet a bird I like as much though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2013): I'm not sure why you're holding on to the past; as she has obviously moved on unscathed.You were only a teenager; so your judgment and decision-making skills aren't comparable to that of an adult. You were kids and it was just about sex. Your feelings now are simply a throw-back to nostalgia. Second-guessing your past actions at this point; is merely attributed to guilt. Leave her alone and get on with your life. You're standing still and obsessing over your deeds done as a boy. She doesn't need anything from you now.Yes, perhaps you were an idiot "child" then; but you are a man now. You can own up to your mistake. You can't undo the past. Now you know better; and will handle similar situations differently. That is how you atone for it.Hanging on to that old issue may be symptomatic of your depression, and you may need to see a qualified mental-health professional to help you. That situation is much too old to be mulling over now; and her life no longer includes you. You may cause trouble for her unintentionally.The bloke to whom you are referring in your post, may not like you hanging around. So get a grip or get help.
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