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writes:Im in therapy because Im in love with a man I hurt so bad he tried to commit suicide. I tortured him for 2 years because I was bitter from being cheated on by the man before him. He lost his job and home because of how much a I messed with his mind. He had to go into a psych hospital for a month and get outpatient care for 14 months because the way I emotionally abused him and put him down. He doesnt know I love him because I didnt know I had fallen in love with him until he almost died all because of me. I want to comtact him to apologize and let him know Im in love with him. What should I do? Will he forgive me and let me in again?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2011): Hey, i know you are sorry for what you have done but i agree with everyone here, leave well alone. Some people love but love alone is just not enough. This man needs time to get over you. You have messed with him enough already and i dont think you are ready to get into a relationship with anyone at the moment.I think you should wait till you have completed your therepy before you can even think about a relationship. You need to figure out what you want for yourself and where you are placed before even just going out there and dating.Sort one thing out at a time and remember everyone deserves respect in this life and that includes respecting yourself.Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2011): I actually think you should let him know you are sorry; but not now. Let him heal first. Then apologize. And then, let him go. That's the best you can do for the poor fellow.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (27 April 2011):
 If you truly love him then you'll let him go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2011): I do believe in second chances but this sounds extreme. Leave him alone. You recognise what you did to him and seem to be genuinely sorry but your reasons for wanting to get back in touch with him are selfish. Sometimes you just have to cut your losses and I think this is one of those cases. Instead of trying to contact him, try to find peace with yourself instead, learn from this and move forward.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2011): No! Stay the hell away from him!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (27 April 2011):
In this situation, I would urge you not to contact him in any way. I think that might send him over the edge again. The best thing you can do now is continue with your own therapy, and leave him well in the past. Please do not go back to this man in any way. That'll just make it worse for him.
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