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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I'm wanting to know why my husband doesnt tell me that I'm beautiful or give me any compliments for that matter? We have been together 5 years, married for 3 years and he still to this day doesnt make me feel like im special. I know he loves me, he's never cheated on me and he is the best man a woman can ever ask for except for the fact that he never gives compliments. Does he feel like I'm still beautiful? Maybe he's not telling me because he'd be lying?I'm asking this because it's not unusual for me to be told this. I'm a very attractive 23 year old, I get hit on daily. I'm constantly being told by co workers and out in about that I'm a very beautiful woman and that guys are always trying to chase after me. Even knowing I'm married I get guys offering to sweep me off my feet and so forth which I constantly have blown off... but all this means nothing to me by other men. When I tell my husband about my weekly encounters he just says that they are desperate. I can see this being true with maybe 1 or 2 guys hitting on me but I get dozens. Men have gone as far as anonomously texting me that they really like me but I'm a faithful woman and I love my man to death but how do I get him - the one person that matters to give me compliments? Maybe I have low self esteem for wanting him to but it wouldnt hurt if he ever gave me at least one.
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reader, Jezebel  +, writes (21 November 2009):
 This is really sad that he wont give you complements. But I dont think it will help when you keep telling him how other men find you attractive.
I think you should let him know that it upsets you, as he is the only person that you want to have complements from, and how it would make you feel extra special and sexy if he did tell you how fantastic you look, etc.
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reader, vivita  +, writes (21 November 2009):
I think your husband has an insecurity problem, knowing how attractive you are, he might feel if he tells you compliments, reminding you how good you look, your self steem will go higher and maybe take the other guys seriously, I just feel he has a deep insecurity problem, he knows you are attractive obviously, but looks like he prefers not to tell you nothing for this reason.Your husband is very aware of what he is doing....
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2009): Hey!Men are like this, sometimes they need reminding of complimenting their other half. Especially as the years roll by and they get so comfortable being together.Ask many couples who have been together for a long while and alot of them will probably tell you the same.Why don't you try getting his attention and get him to give his opinion, for instance if you get a new dress, new haircut...ask him what he thinks/if he likes it? Encouraging him to voice out.If this doesn't work then subtly ask him why is it that he never compliments you and makes you feel special...try get a response off him.
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