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writes:Last night my brother and I (I'm a male) got pretty drunk just hanging out. We both started watching some porn, and discussing things, and, well....we ended up partially having sex. We were both consenting adults, although once we realized what was going on we both stopped and got very upset.He's an emotional person and I'm worried about him, and I feel terrible about what happened. After a couple hours we chalked it up to drunken stupidity. He seems OK this next morning, but I'm not sure. Has anyone had this kind of awkward situation or something similar happen? Will this get easier to think about or am I going to be permanently scarred with this?
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reader, j321 +, writes (12 May 2011):
The scarring emotional takes place I think when the incest continues for a lpng period of time. Like if it seemed that he were to fall in love with you and then the two of you were to stop talking. Just a drunkin binge can be chalked up as a mistake as long as you two continue to have a comunication like brother and sister.
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reader, drog +, writes (16 November 2010):
 As a person that has been forced to receive affection from an older sibling, I know of nothing more frightening than the reappearance of a past "incident" during an everyday activity. So yes, there's a chance that it will stick forever.
However, the fact that both of you have acknowledged its occurrence might be helpful to the mending of the relationship. In all honesty, I don't think it will fully go away. But that doesn't mean you can't replace those memories with new ones now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2009): The fallout can take a while. I had something similar happen with a sibling. I was determined to forget about it, and certainly to never talk about it. I shut her down, hard, the couple of times she tried to bring it up, and so it hasn't been mentioned in the 30 years since.
You're both going to be painfully aware that something has changed between you. Over time you get used to it. It doesn't have to be the end of the world, but it's definitely weird for a while.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2009): Thank you Gina, your word have helped me.
I still have a giant weight on my soul that feels like it'll never leave. He was more concerned with the fact that he cheated on his girlfriend, but to me I haven't even thought of it like that with mine.
I want so badly to come clean about what happened, but I'm almost positive it will mean losing her. We're nearly engaged and she's my everything, but I feel like keeping something like this from her will tear me apart.
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reader, Anadin  +, writes (4 November 2009):
 lots of incest on the books this month.
you guys where watching porn, ur still young, probably still exploring sex on the whole so you could chalk it up to drunken stupidity. i doubt he will forever be scared by it though. give him his space to come to terms with it though, try not to force the topic when in conversation with him either.
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