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writes:Will I ever find a guy that likes me? I'm 14 (15 in a few months), and no guy has ever shown any romantic interest in me. Only one of my friends has had a boyfriend, but all of them have either been asked out or has had someone obviously crushing on them. I have am kind of insecure about my looks, and not having anyone crush on me isn't really helping. Will anyone ever like me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2011): Don't worry, it'll pick up after a while, you'll see. I myself was never noticed by boys till I was around 16(not much older than you, but further down the puberty line, and that says a lot). Don't worry about boys not bein interested, they're shy idiots at that age. My only advice to you is: Expand your friend circle, be openinded, talk to people, play, and most importantly, have fun.Show everyone who you are and what a great person you can be and sooner or later someone might gather enough courage to ask you out. It worked wonders for me. But I warn you...being popular with the boys isn't always fun. I've had some firsthand experience in that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2011): hun your only 15 and trust me you don't want to much boy attention right now in your life. I'm 17 and i had a lot of boy attention when i was 15 it wasn't all it was cracked up to be (yeah i know doesn't sound very helpful but wait). i suggest you talk to your friends about how your feeling and don't let boys control your fun. look at me now i never took any interest in boys at that age i had a boyfriend and stuck with him and till this day we are still together.
Basically what i am trying to say is that when the right boy pays you attention (and it will happen, i promise) you will know he is the one for you! i hope this helps x
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2011): My gosh - your so young.your time will come
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reader, dezzi1210 +, writes (1 March 2011):
Seriously, 14 is not an age to start going out wih guys. You're still developing, finding out who you are, busy with school and growing up.....this I only know because now I'm 19 and at uni, I can see that worrying about getting a boyfriend should have been the least of my problems. When I was 14, I thought EXACTLY what you do - that because guys didn't fancy me, I was therefore ugly and lonely, and all I wanted in the world was for a boy to like me. This did not happen until a couple of months before my 18th birthday, and my self-loathing which occured because of my thoughts of being 'unattractive' have stayed with me, despite my frustrated boyfriend telling me otherwise. You really should not worry about guys fancying your friends and not you - your time will come when you are ready, and you will find someone more mature who really cares about you, when your friends find themselves with a bad reputation for going out with every guy in town. Just enjoy being a teenager without the boy trouble, because sometimes its not all as nice and cute as you expect. When you're ready, guys will realise what they've been missing! :)
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reader, LovelessAct1  +, writes (1 March 2011):
Guys at that age are very very shy. Even if they act out going to try and get attention, chances are they are too insecure to say anything to you directly. I'm certain there are guys that have their eye on you, but just don't have the courage to do anything about it. Keep in mind they're insecure about themselves as well; they are teenagers after all. Its a strange point in life.But as you grow and enter high school, things will be a little more open. Even after, once you enter the college setting you'll find that the drama of the earlier years seems to melt away and people will become much more confident in expressing their feelings.Overall, give it time. Like everyone has mentioned, you're still young :)
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reader, cherrie +, writes (1 March 2011):
I met my first ever boyfriend just a few days before my 15th birthday actually and before him, no one showed even the slightest of interest. And even during the time I was with him, I never got much attention. Now, I'm 20 years old and it's all picking up. Guess the caterpillar finally turned into a butterfly!!
You'll blossom in 5 years, don't rush things xxx
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (1 March 2011):
 Unfortunately we're not tarot card readers, psychics, or gypsies, so we cannot look into the future and tell you if you will ever get a boyfriend or not.
You're 14, dear. Guys your age just got out of the "girls have cooties" stage.
I didn't even get my first, real boyfriend till I was 16! That way it's more official and proper because both of you have a license to operate a vehicle. It's not also not very romantic on your first date to be dropped off by your parents.
Now, I don't know you so I can't tell you what you're doing wrong. However, I do know that you do need to be patient and have confidence in yourself. Easier said than done at that age. Who doesn't have insecurities? The key is to keep them in check.
Also, don't wait for someone to start crushing on you. You need to start figuring out what you want in a boy and find what you like. It also couldn't hurt to take charge and ask out boys yourself.
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reader, StarryEyes101 +, writes (1 March 2011):
 Aw hun you are still very young. Give it a couple years and i'm sure you will fighting them off with a stick =)
Wear a bit of make up (not too much cos most guys don't like it) Don't be insecure, guys your age are usually nervous about asking girls out so if you wait, in time they will come to you =)
Hope this helps =)
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