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*iberty1
writes:How do you put your wifes affair in the past and move forward in the relationship. She has told me everything and I know I neglected her infact I had two affairs on her and she knew about one. We have both cut off all ties to the affair poeple and were in couseling but she says she doesnt need to go because she doesnt want to keep talking about them wants to move on? I dont know if that is good or bad. Worried she will do it again because i did after she caught me I will not naymore once I caught her figured out had the best thing right in fromt of me. But i cant stop thinking about her affair and I feel like less of a man and low self esteem what do i do?? Thnaks please respond id ur wife has cheated on u want ems n piont of view first women r welocme also but men I would like to hear from. thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2008): The double standards in this...I really don't know what to say to you. All your think is oh poor me! poor me!
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reader, liberty1 +, writes (27 June 2008):
liberty1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI am the writer of the question. my wife does know of both affairs i told her recently after i found out about hers we both came clean ant told each other so its all out in the open. I just cant get over the affair she was telling the guy she loved him this in all of three months she got his name tattoed in japanese writing on her wrist. I know he was taking zoloft for depression and xanax whcih she said she was taking 4miligrams a day enough to put me to bed, lol. now she is clean and fully involved but i just think how cn u be so close to someone as she was to him and then feel nothing now 2 month slater. i dont trust her and cant deal with her saying on ohone she luvs him wants him to take my place fuck him meaning me why would someone say that?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (27 June 2008):
 So you haven't been fully honest with your wife? You told her about one of the affairs, but not both of them. And you wonder why you doubt her? It's because you ascribe to her your own drive, morality, motivation. You can't trust her because I think that deep down in your heart you know you can't be trusted either.
Get this all out, go back to counseling, or prepare to end the marriage. There are really no other choices.
Sorry to be so harsh, but you are focused on the wrong cheater right now. Look at yourself. Why should your wife trust you any more?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2008): You cheated on her as well, your lucky she's not left you. You should be thankful she's still with you. Sounds like the only reason she had an affair was because how YOU were treating her, if your both mending your relationship then I doubt it happen again
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