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writes:My childhood friend and I have had feelings for each other on and off for the past 15 years of our friendship. But of course always at separate times. I was going to confront him about my feelings this time. Though it isn't as easy as I thought it would be, I figured we always go back to each other so if I told him how I feel he would be completly on board but when he was at my house a week ago he told me he lost his virginity to a girl he is in a non-exclusive relationship with. But now I heard from my friend (who is the best friend of the girl he is non-exclusively with) that he and her didnt actually have sex. I am furious that he lied to me I dont understand why he would tell me he did if he didnt. What should I do? Why do you think he lied to me? I am really upset over this and I dont know how to react I have feelings for him but I no longer want him to know because I dont think I can trust him , its a big deal to me that he lied about having sex with her because he didnt imply it it was directly said and he was trying to give me advice on sex. I know I am rambling but I just need some input from an outsider.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2009): I think he's somehow "Teasing" You to get closer to you.
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reader, anaphaseii  +, writes (26 August 2009):
Hmm, my boyfriend lied to me about having been with other girls before me when we were just friends and then when we got together, he said I was his first. When I asked him why, his response was, "I don't know." Personally, I think it was because he was self-conscious about his inexperience. But the only thing you can do at this point is ask him point blank about it. He's the only one who knows, you know?
And I'd keep in mind that him not having sex but saying he did is shady, yeah, and a breach of your trust, but better that than having him have sex and saying he didn't. I'd most likely say it was to impress you. In some twisted way. You might want to tell him that's not how you work. :)
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reader, Tomuchlove +, writes (26 August 2009):
Is it possible he has the same feeling for you and he is trying to appeal to your emotions and get a response from it maybe he wants to take things further with you.
Guys unfortunatly dont understand the way women think they think with logic and women with emotions there for he may think that by doing this you will want to stop it and take things further.
This is cruel way to go about it but guys just don't get women.
You should confront him as to why he would do this I could be wrong but I know the thinking that maybe behind it.
Good luck
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