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writes:I have this guy, we started talking last year. We met last year as well, and things were really good, then he moved back to his home state for a year, and we still continued talking and having an on and off long-distance thing for the whole year. A week ago, he said he was coming back to move to the state I live in. he said he wanted to be with me, and find a job out here, and make me his girlfriend. everything was perfect. I picked him up from the airport, and he texted me and saw me a lot and everything. then his one of his relatives died. and one day, things kinda changed. I'm not sure if his relative is the reason, we still hung out and everything was mostly fine, even though he seemed a little distant. but he stopped texting me. He had to rush back to his home state today because of family stuff, and he's apparently coming back this week. we hung out the other night but he never texted me after, even though he always does. so I called him yesterday, and things seemed okay. he applied for a job here, but he's not really telling me things and didn't talk to me again. it just makes no sense why he would kinda disappear out of the blue, when everything seemed really great. Am I overreacting?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you that makes sense
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (19 July 2013):
 He's in the middle of a big move, family members have died and he's still in touch but not up in your face daily... yeah I do think you are over reacting.
Women can multi-task better than men (in general) men focus on ONE THING at a time. his goal was to move and find a job... add in a death and he's got a lot on his plate.
having you constantly bug him (if he's distracted even one text a day of "hey how's it going?" could seem intrusive right now as you are not yet at that state of the relationship..... will be detrimental to the relationship.
give him space and a chance to recover from a move, a death, going from LDR to local, finding a job etc...
lots of adjustments for him. A nagging gf is the first thing he will toss overboard in this storm.
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