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writes:ok sorry for the long message but this guy confusing me and it best if i explain what we did for dates then u can see why he suddenly gone off meday1 meet in town walked around went to his watched film had sex (weak moment from me)then he walked me homeday 2 meet in town back to his for film meet up with a neutral mate who we didnt know we both knew went to the lake then slept round his watched films and sexday 3 he came to mine (sex)went for a chiense and then pub sat at a spot (the rock) where he sat with his friend before she died day 4went to his went for a walk then pub sat at the rock againday 5 was away he phoned me a few times and sent me a loving emailday 6same as above but he gave me a speech about not letting my mate ruining my holidayday 7 came home he met me at the train station went to mine watched films (sex) then went pub came home watched more filmsday 8 stayed at mine all day then went pub and he a bit excited and loud and i told him off and i also lied about the guy we saw claiming i didnt know him walked me half way home and stood for ages cuddlingday 9 went to his he found out the guy we saw was my ex said he cant trust me i explained about my ex stalking me he forgave me for lying watched films and went to the rock then saw my brother in town and he tried to make friends with himday 10 went his went to my work and then cinema slept at his he accused me of wanting sex when i asked him for a cuddle he slept on the floor but held my hand for a whileday 11 (today)woke up attempted to have sex but he kept going soft had breakfast and then he walked me half way home i told him im falling for him so he teased me and calling me a child for not speaking to him after he upset me just been online to talk about our next date but he cancelled it and said we need some space and told me he see me maybe in 2-6 weeks why would he change so quickly
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2008): Thanks for the update atarisrocks, I'm glad things have worked out this way.
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reader, atarisrocks +, writes (1 July 2008):
atarisrocks is verified as being by the original poster of the question saw him in town yesterday told him i have a bf and he took it well even though he now call this guy a fish we agreed to be polite to ecah other if we see each other but not make plans for anything
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2008): Why did he call you a fish? Now that's really strange. Anyway if you think he's controlling and keeps calling you names, then you were right to finish things with him. I'd say forget about this one, things just sound too hard.
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reader, atarisrocks +, writes (30 June 2008):
atarisrocks is verified as being by the original poster of the questionim 19 i wanted to slow down after he tried to be controlling and when he kept calling me a fish even when i asked him to stop
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2008): I didn't mean that slow.... (Diovan bangs head repeatedly on table)
Sorry babes, I hope you don't mind, but how old are you?
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reader, atarisrocks +, writes (30 June 2008):
atarisrocks is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok on saturday i thought we was moving too fast so i said i want to be friends he lost it and hates me calls me a lier and a user and wont let me have like a month to get ready for a relationship with him
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2008): Great Atarisrocks,
I'll admit that I was frightened that things had gone so badly that you might have lost him forever. It seems he likes you a lot, and is willing to try again. Take things a little slower (if you can) this time. There's no problem with finding him attractive and wanting to be intimate with him, but as I said he may prefer to take things a little slower. Talk to him about how you feel about him and ask him how he feels. See if you can come to some arrangement about your relationship that will suit you both. I wish you and him good luck. Take care.
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reader, atarisrocks +, writes (23 June 2008):
atarisrocks is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwe meet up yesterday after he emailed me sayig he cant stand being apart too long and he said he wants to ask me out but waiting for both his head and heart to both say do it
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008): I don't know how you met or how your friendship developed but if you had sex with him on your first date, then maybe I can understand.
Date one you had sex, and you had sex with him on several occasions after that. He suggested other activities out of bed and met your brother, took you to a special place which reminded him of his friend, and forgave you for the avoidance after the ex thing. By day ten he's accusing you of being sex mad, and by day 11 he can't get erection.
It seems to me that things have moved to fast and become too sexual. He sounds as if he's wondering if all you share in common is sex and for him that's not a relationship. Your already arguing and geting upset with one another. Believe it or not, there are some guys who just want to get to know a girl and are not happy with a arguementive relationship built on sex.
I'm not sure what you can do about it if this is the case, but probably if you leave it for a while, then contact him again for another date, and take things slow, it just might make him see you in a different light, allow him to reassess your relationship and be willing to try a thing with you again.
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reader, bec_125 +, writes (19 June 2008):
Hi
I have had a lot of experience when it comes to your partner changing all of a sudden.
I couldn't understand why my boyfriend was acting differently when I confronted him he said things were moving to fast and he needed time to get his head around this new relationship.
Maybe this is the same in your case, I think this is to much for 11 days of knowing someone and maybe you should both take some time away, relax and speak in a week or so.
He will start to realise that he has not seen you and will eventually make the first move.
However if this relationship isn't for him then there is nothing you can do i'm afraid only time will tell.
Well I hope evrything works out and good luck and best wishes for the future. xxx
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