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writes: I met this guy--I'll call him "Eric"--several years ago, while he was on tour with his band. He gave me his e-mail address so I could send him some photos I'd taken of the gig. We have kept in very sporadic touch over the past few years and until recently our correspondence has been limited to business and the occasional polite inquiry on life in general. He lives several states away from me, but I've seen him a few times since, on subsequent tours. Eric is 14 years older than I am and married. I know this for a fact. He has never mentioned his wife in conversation, but he was wearing a ring the first time I met him and has always worn one since. Our interaction has never been more than casually friendly, because I knew from day one that he was unavailable. His wife is beautiful and an accomplished musician herself.A few weeks ago he was out on tour again and we caught up briefly before the gig, which I was photographing. He didn't do anything unusual, though he did tell me I looked like a million bucks. To be fair, my late-blooming self had at last figured out how to do my hair and makeup since the last time he'd seen me, but I'm still no model.What I can't figure out is this. Shortly after that show, he called me out of the blue, apparently just to talk about life in general. In several years of acquaintance, that was a first. He's called and texted several times since then and expressed an interest in doing so again in the near future. Why would he do this? Mind you, all we've done is shoot the shit about life and music, but something about it just feels odd to me. Am I reading too much into this? I enjoy our conversations but I don't want to cause problems in his personal life, and I can't imagine his wife would be stoked to discover he's randomly calling a much younger woman in another state. (I've noticed he doesn't call me from home.) Does his behavior sound "just" friendly or should I stop taking his calls? Sorry if what I'm asking doesn't make much sense...
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2010): It sounds as if he is interested in you now beyond being a friend. Be wary. You know he is married and maybe just after a fling.
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reader, soon567  +, writes (29 November 2010):
He's just being a guy and trying to secure extra sex nothing to worry about here. He see a walking vagina.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (29 November 2010):
 No,it does not sound just friendly, otherwise he would have no problems in calling you from home ,even in front of his wife.
Why does he call you ? The usual reasons, I guess. Ego boost. Boredom. The thrill of the chase. Stuff like that.
The point is that, anyway, he is married - therefore, if you are not 100percent sure that he only wants to talk to you out of your shared interest in music - and clearly you are not sure - the best is simply to stay away from him. You never know, it may get messy.
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