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writes:I have this coworker who has been married most of her life. But she always hits on the male coworkers, who are also married. She has even done it infront of their wives too. She always asks them to come over and sleep over at her house.I find this completely disrespectful. If I was one of the wives I wouldn't put up with it and I would say something.I'm surprised that one of the guys hasn't gone over there and asked for sex, if it hasn't happened already. I wonder what would she do then? She is asking for trouble.Ironically she keeps tabs on her husband. She phones him up everyday at lunch time, even if she has absolutely nothing to talk about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2011): I think the more important question here is, do you actually care? If you do you shouldn't.
If you're asking out of simple curiosity then Caring guy hit the nail on the head. She sounds like a woman who has very low self worth and is very insecure. Women that crave male attention to that degree when they're already in a relationship have emotional issues.
Then again perhaps she and her husband are swingers and just looking for other couples to have sex with. Who knows what goes on in their house. Perhaps he's cheated on her and she feels it's okay to do the same to him now, it would certainly explain why she calls him up to check up on him.
My point is OP, you really have no idea what is going on in her head or her home. While on a superficial level she may look like a devious bitch out to wreck peoples marriages without any consideration it's usually not that simple. Don't judge her too harshly as a person based on this, her actions are crappy but it could be the result of something that is seriously wrong with her.
Just stay out of her way and keep your husband away from her hehe. Whatever you don;t go around gossiping about her either, some people are just like that and as long as she's never in the position to directly screw you over then you can live with it to be honest. It's up to other people to take care of themselves. Just stay out of her business and let her get on with things, it's not going to effect you in any way so just sit back and watch the drama unfold.
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reader, the_phoenic  +, writes (12 June 2011):
i agree with caring guyif no one answered her invitations to come over they must all know that they are nothing but falseher behaviour shows mostly that she is an attention seekeror may be she has a type of a histrionic personality disorder
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (12 June 2011):
She sounds massively insecure to be honest. Perhaps that husband of hers has cheated on her before (hence why she also keeps tabs on him), perhaps she has seen someone close to her cheat, or perhaps she's just attention seeking because she really is that unhappy.
Whatever the reason, she sounds unhappy. The even sadder thing is that it sounds like everyone knows this, hence why no one really cares about what she says. Truth is they're probably laughing at her. I also doubt that she's having an affair with any of them - she's being to open with a lot of guys, whereas a real affair would be kept under wraps.
The best thing to do is just keep her as a professional colleague. You don't want to get dragged into a huge mess, which it sounds like she is.
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