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writes:What are some of the reasons a man would stay with his girlfriend he left his family for when all other signs point to him wanting to come back home? He knows hes welcome to anytime. I just really want some perspective on how a man might be feeling or what would be stopping him from doing it. Thank you for any responses in advance. Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (2 October 2010):
 "Showing signs of wanting something " is actually very far from "doing" that something. When people really want to do something, they do it, no matter what, and there's not stopping them.
If he does not come back, it's because , all in all, he does not want to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2010): Maybe he realizes that he made a HUGE mistake and that if he leaves the tramp and comes back to you that you'll tell him to go to hell and that she'll then do the same thing...Take anything that is his at your place, rent a storage unit, pay the minimum rent and give him the combination. If he doesn't get it they'll sell it for rent due and you'll be off the hook.
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reader, SweetindianGirl +, writes (2 October 2010):
you cant stop anyone from anything, if and when you do, you wont be satisfied.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2010): If he wants to come back he will say so. And then you should tell him 'NO'.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (1 October 2010):
 From the small amount of information you give I would say he is keeping his options open. He prefers to stay with the girlfriend but is taking the line of least resistance at home so that he can continue to come and go as he wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2010): He feels staying with the girlfriend is the wrong choice over his family, so he shows signs of coming back. However, his feelings are overwhelmed with temptation for this girlfriend, so he pursues them everytime(or at least more often than not, by what you're saying).
Once those head over heals deceiving feelings fade(and they always do), he'll realize what he's done, and either not care or surprise you with huge amounts of guilt. He's most likely starting to realize this already, which is the reason he's showing signs of coming back. Like CaringGuy said, though, do you really want him back after he's already done all that to you by following his own selfish temptations?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (1 October 2010):
Because he doesn't really want to come back. What he wants is to be able to have his cake and eat it. I don't think you should be taking him back.
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