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writes: Why won't my ex leave me alone? I broke up with him 3 weeks ago and he still texts me to say he misses me. I don't respond. He called yesterday but the caller id said unknown because he knew I wouldn't answer if I knew it was him, so stupidly I answered it. He said that all his friends stay friends with their exes. I told him I didn't want to talk to him yet, and then we started arguing about all the things that made me so upset with him in the first place. He said we should stop arguing and start talking about nice things, but that's all I can think about right now-how he treated me like dirt! He then had the nerve to ask if I had ever heard of forgiveness. I said that I may have forgiven him, but that I'm still hurt by the things he did. He just doesn't get it! He added me as a friend on myspace (after I had deleted him), and I accepted it. But then, I looked at his page today and he had all these pictures up of him with girls that he met when he went to Florida a week ago. They had captions saying "I met these good girls in Florida, blah blah blah." I just don't want to see it, or hear about it, so I deleted him again, and have decided to not answer his calls. His excuse for the girls on his webpage were that he only danced and they had kids or something stupid. The problem now is he is sending me mail and things i left at his house and says that he wants me to call him when i get it and tell him if I enjoy what else he put in the package. I'm so sick of him! He's not even a guy I would want to be friends with. He is an emotionally abusive guy that is materialistic and egotistical and so much more. anyway, how do i cope with the whole situation, and why does he want to keep in contact so much? He keeps saying that we are going to be together in the future because he keeps having a vision! He's driving me crazy!(Mod Note: Personal website deleted.)
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (30 October 2007):
 Hi,
your ex sounds like he's got one hell of an ego on him. So he probably can't come to terms with the fact that a girl doesn't want him anymore. He's undoubtedly angry that he doesn't have control over you and until his next punching bag comes along he feels its his due to continue to make you feel bad.
Just keep to your guns, don't answer his calls, if he persists, talk to some mutual friends ( if you have any ) to see if they can get him to back off. If he continues and it gets ugly or he becomes threatening call the police.
Good luck, and as my mother in law advises to all the nice girls out there: "avoid the ones who are full of themselves, they will only hurt you!"
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reader, rcn  +, writes (30 October 2007):
 You broke up with him, you called it quits. There's nothing in the break up rulebook that says the feelings must be mutual when broken up with.
I would simply let him know, "I heard of forgiveness, I did forgive you, but that doesn't mean I'm going to choose to be with you. If you really wanted me, you wouldn't have treated me that way in the first place."
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