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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and i have been dating two months but have known each other four years. He got laid off from work an now doesnt have a job and says he has been looking for one but i dont see it. I try to encourage him to get out there and find one.but he doesnt seem to take my advice and when he does have money he gives most of it to his parents which he stays with. I love him but am tired of him not working and taking care of himself. How do i get him to understand i love him but i want him to work without arguing?
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo  +, writes (6 March 2010):
 You could try sitting down with him and telling him that you know how hard it is from him to lose a job and that it is stressful looking for a job mixed the rejection that comes with job searching. but tell him that the sooner he finds one the sooner he will be able toget back to normal life. =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2010): If he lives with his parents you can bet that they're on his back about finding work too. He doesn't need another person nagging him, especially if he's stubborn. Try offering him an incentive, a gift, a planned romantic event, fulfilling a bedroom fantasy of his, basically anything that will make him get off his butt.
If that fails to work, video game controllers mysteriously vanishing could be an option? Depending on what he does in his spare time though I guess. You could try circling jobs in the newspaper yourself and then asking him to apply to one every day. But that's not really your responsibility and you have to ask yourself where your "line in the sand" is and how much you are willing to do before you walk away.
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