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writes:My boyfriend and I have been going out for six months and I love him to death. Everything was perfect and I couldn't ask for a better man. A few days before homecoming we got into a small arguement and he broke up with me because he said he doesn't want to hurt me anymore but he never has done anything to hurt me. We decided to work it out and he asked for time to get his mind right because he feels he is hurting me too bad but he hasn't done anything and he won't explain to me why he thinks so. Why won't he tell me why he thinks he's hurting me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2010): I agree very much with the latter two answers. But I would like to add that your man isn't man by any means. At least, he's certainly not acting like one. Tell him to actually man up and tell you why because in truth, he's only hurting you more by keeping it from you. If you can't even trust him enough to tell you this, then can you really trust that he will ever be open and truthful about anything else? A real man knows what he wants/doesn't want, a real man doesn't play games and most of all and real man is open and honest. Good luck. You might find yourself looking back and laughing about this one day.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (9 November 2010):
 Well there could be many reasons. Thought processes that have thrust guilt upon him because of this argument. If he had wanted to break up with you for a while you would have noticed something would you not?
We all have our motives for our actions. There is no such thing as a random occurrence. I suspect something happened to him before or after he met you and it forced the best of him to appear, it may have led him to believe the moment he hurt you, he had failed as a boyfriend or as a man. This argument perhaps or the cause of it. I do not know him so I cannot be sure but it is still possible.
I hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2010): Thanks for the advice =)
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reader, No watered down advice here! +, writes (9 November 2010):
 He has hurt you in ways you don't know, because you was NOT an willing participate. By that I'm saying he could have had an another girlfriend,said or did things that was derogatory towards you and or your character. Whatever the case may be he does has an conscience unlike many people,and just whether leave you alone then to continue to "HURT" you. Another example ,would be he's has not been honest at all to you and every thing you think he is,he is not! That's another form of hurting somebody in a person's mind that tells lies, to make themselves, out to look better then what they actually are! When in reality they're making an judgment call for us by lying in the first place. They're simply saying "If I tell you who I am I think you wouldn't accept me" Which is very unfair! And yes very painful to assume of me! I gave you several ways to look at this, So think about.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (9 November 2010):
 I don't have a magic 8 ball so I can't tell you why or what he may have done. I could guess til the cows come home but that isn't useful or productive.
I would tell him that if he can't fess up and be honest that you two have no future together.
Don't you want to be with a guy whom you can be honest with and who can be honest with you? Instead of some guy who pulls mind games. By NOT telling you he is not helping you at all, we all know the mind can make things 100 times worse when left to your own devices and imagination.
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