A
female
age
30-35,
*pendy
writes:Why is my ex boyfriend doing this? should I text him this?I loved my ex boyfriend so much, I thought we were in love but he dumped me saying he felt out love and that he doesn't want a relationship. I was really hurt so I told him we can't be friends no contact.We spoke again, he said he miss me, I asked him to cinema, then he told me he's seeing this girl but they are not boyfriend and girlfriend. Now I don't wanna go anymore. I want to text him this: "I don't think going cinemas with you is a good idea. I mean you dumped, you have a girlfriend now, who you probably dumped me for. and if my boyfriend was going cinemas with his ex gf I don't think I'd like that idea. I won't like it be done to me so I won't do that to anyone. You told me your over me, you've got a girlfriend, you've moved on and you want me to get over you and that's exactly what am gunna do and am not gunna be yours or any other guys bit on the side cos I've got so much to offer a guy, am a good person, I have a good heart, am loyal, honest and I just wanna love and be loved and I know I will find a real guy who would love me just as much as I would do him. So I won't settle for anything less than I deserve:) What do you think? Should I go or not?Thanks.x
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (3 June 2011):
Hi there. I believe that what you want to say to your ex about not wanting to go out with someone when he has a girlfriend, is the right decision.
It would be absolutely the wrong thing to do.
Would you like that done to you? Of course you wouldn't.
You do deserve better than that.
Texting him to tell him this is a really wise thing to do. It's even better than to call, because then he can't try and change your mind. And don't change your mind either.
It would cause all kinds of trust issues if his new lady ever found out, and it is possible that she could.
No, just don't go there at all - it's not worth it. Someone will end up getting hurt for sure.
Just be kind and friendly in your text message, and wish him all the best in the future and then move on with your own life.
It sounds like you have a very wise head on your shoulders.
All the best in the future, take care.
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