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writes: I have read about people writing some negative things about the other woman, I have been in this predictament if a man is saying he is unhappy at home and you are there to comfort him be it sexually or emotionally what is the fuss? I believe I didnt say any vows to anyone nor promises. So if a married man desires you over his wife so be it...right?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2008): Wrong. This is the problem. I would like to ask you if this is your opinion, why do you want someone elses man. Not why does he want you, but why do you want to be with someone who is in a relationship with someone else.
Let us know what 'the other women' gets out of it. You mention about the man not being happy in his marriage hence needing someone elses effections, what benefit is there to you to give effection or sexual attention to someone you are never going to have a real relatioship with? What in it for you? I have wondered if perhaps that women who get involved in relationships with otherwise unavailable men are perhaps that men can see that the type of women who would be happy to share a man are not good enough to keep for good. Is it that you have trouble getting a single guy and you have to settle? Are women like you who play with attached guys happy to have sloppy seconds!
The reason people bag the other women is from a morally guided females perspective, your easy and because all our lives we have been advised that men are happy to screw a whole in the wall, then a women who is happy with anothers man, even if he wants to, is letting the side down. I see it that the guy has been the betrayer yes, and you are a person who is happy to be used by someone who could give a shit about you. What type of person does that make you worth?
Unhappy at home! Did you fall for that one! Your nothing more than a hole in the wall!!!
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reader, rcn  +, writes (26 January 2008):
 Not so be it. It's wrong. From your side as not taking the vow. Just like alcohol, drugs, porn, etc, you're being used as a coping tool. A way for the man or women to self medicate and compensate for what they are lacking in their marriage.
Most of the time the man DOES NOT leave his wife for the mistress. If you were him would you tell your wife, I'm leaving you because I love my drugs, or love my alcohol. It's the same thing. You're misrepresting the feelings associated. You develop feelings, he's using you to cope. I don't see a relationship beginning there.
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reader, Devilish Angel +, writes (26 January 2008):
 You didn't take vows but he did. Its wrong because its like you helping him commit adultery. Its wrong because even though he gets his happiness, the wife is suffering very much. It's wrong because you should respect yourself better than being the 'other woman' when you could find your own man and be the only woman.
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