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writes:There is this girl that i love, I Knew her for about 1 year but we are not very close or intimate because she lives in the boarden school, but when she completed her secondary education i started communication with her through phone only, this is because i cant visit her at her residence because she told me that her parent, brother, sisters cant stand the sight of her standing and discussing with a boy. One sunday afternoon she visited me and we discussed, then i told her that i want to be her friend, she told that we are friends already then i told her that i want to be an intimate friend than just being an ordinary friend though we dindnt conclude on anything. For a while her phone wasnt available, when it became reachable i asked her why is her phone not available, she told me that she switched it off but due to i dont have enough airtime on my phone at then, i told her i will call her later. When i called her, brother answered it and told me not to call this number again. Please, i need your advice becauseI am in love with this girl. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2009): The family seems to have a lot of control over her. Your feelings for her are not likely to go away even if you do. But there may not be anything you can do. Follow your heart - it guides you where you should be. But temper your actions with good judgment - you may want to find a way to leave a message for her that really, truly expresses how you feel - then leave it at that. Either she will find a way to respond or if God wants this to be, he will find a way to open the door later.
I don't know why her brother answered the phone, but that surely wasn't her choice. They seem to control her and it will be very hard for you to get beyond that. I spent 17 years with a woman whose life is like that. You can't rescue her from her own family - though I know it's sad.
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reader, Ngene michael +, writes (22 September 2009):
Ngene michael is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thats a lots,I appreciate a mission time.
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reader, Lola1  +, writes (21 September 2009):
 What exactly is a friend who is intimate? Did you say you wanted to be her boyfriend or just that you wanted to be in a sexual relationship?
Either way, when you discussed this with her and didn't conclude anything, that was your first clue. If she had been interested, she would have said so.
She is not interested in you. Respect her family's wishes and do not contact her again. If she gets in touch with you on her own, with no urging from you, then and ONLY THEN should you be in contact with her.
In the meantime, concentrate on finding a girl who is interested in you.
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reader, Leo11  +, writes (21 September 2009):
Two things might have happened. The more probable one is that she doesn't see you as an intimate friend and got uncomfortable and decided to cut you out. Or her parents overheard your conversation and forced her to stop talking to you. Either way, you shouldn't call her for a while. If you could get her to meet you in person(talk to her online maybe) and tell you how she really felt about you, maybe then you could have a clearer picture. In case she doesn't, then you have no option but to get over her.
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