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51-59,
anonymous
writes:Hi, I'm 38 and I haven't had a boyfriend since 2000.I take care of myself -- I'm well-educated, slim, sociable, good job etc -- but no one is interested in taking it beyond the casual sex stage. At one point, I went two years without even the passing pleasure of casual sex. I actually don't want to get married or have kids ever, but I do want a best friend to have sex and share my life with. Help!! Any advice?
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reader, agony_uncle_r  +, writes (4 March 2007):
FIRSTLY. it sounds like your giving your body up to people befor you really know them,befor youve given a relationship of trust and respect a chance to be built.
SECONDLY, it seems strange, but most men around your age are actually getting to the stage where they want families, the fact you dont encourages a casual attitude. your choice not to have kids is your choice but unless you pick young men thats how its going to be.
hope its a little clearer and good luck, sure youll find the right guy soon.
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reader, Farris +, writes (4 March 2007):
 My personal opinion is that you shouldn't have sex with someone that you don't already feel that bond with.
Maybe men feel the same way... Therefore when you sleep with them they don't see it as anything more than casual sex, some men might even just see you as easy.
I suggest the best way to find a friend like you described is to just hold off on having sex with them straight away. If it doesn't work out then so what? If it does develop, then maybe you could have sex with them and it mean more than just some casual thing.
I wish you all the luck in the world.
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