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writes:Hi. I'm almost 15, a girl and a virgin. I never had a bf, only friends. The reason I never had a bf is that my parents didn't allow it because I was too young. Now a few months ago I've met this guy who's a friend of my cousin that lives near me and I liked him a lot... my parents didn't seem to have a problem about it and my cousin knew about it to. I asked my cousin not to tell him anything because I didn't want him to find out that I liked him... I wanted to take things slow. Then a little while later the friend came to visit my cousin and he told his friend that I like him while I was playing with them, (my cousin is about the same age as me), I was so embarrassed. When we were alone I asked my cousin why he did that and he said it was to get back at me for the stuff I did, (a prank) it turned out to be small stuff a normal girl and boy would "fight" about. He knew that the guy was the first one my parents "allowed"... even though he doesn't like me and this I found out after my cousin told him. But something is bothering me and I can't talk to my cousin about it because he would think I'm weird, stupid and he will have the same story... why did he get me back in such a way and not another? Is he jealous, just cold hearted like other boys, (no offence), or what is it? Need some advice because this has been a "mystery" for me for about 5 months, I don't have anything against my cousin but really?! to take something away that "precious" just to get back at me for stupid little things I did? I mean how would he feel if I did something like that to him... oh yeah I forgot, he's a boy. You might think I'm silly to think that he might hide something but it's not impossible. @_@
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2014): Thanks guys for your answers. I still have a few things to learn and it's going to be a bumpy road, I just have to get over it and move on. Thank you again. :)
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reader, TheAdvisor  +, writes (11 September 2014):
Sounds exactly like my brother.
I think it's that girls take these things more serious than guys especially at the teenage years. He probably thought it was funny or something.
It's just something in life. Some guys will be nice, loving and caring, and others will be dumb, immature and behave stupidly like your cousin did. Don't show your cousin your soft side, show him that what he did really upset you.
Next time, if you like someone, don't tell your cousin.
At least you know that that guy doesn't like you. Move on, it's his loss.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2014): Now you see why your parents will not let you date yet.
You are making a big deal over nothing. This is all a clear indication that you need more time before you are old enough to deal with boys. Why are you so angry at your cousin for something so silly? He told someone you like him. So what?
The guy doesn't like you the same way. So now you are learning a few lessons you will have to face when you start dating. How to handle it when you find out someone doesn't like you back. You get embarrassed sometimes. The other lesson is, a crush has to wear-off after a short time. If it just goes on and on and on, it's silly.
You are only 13, and will have dozens of them. Don't be ashamed of them. It's just part of growing up.
Your cousin didn't do anything but tell his friend you like him, and you are behaving childishly. Grow-up a little and laugh it off. Now you don't have to wonder if the boy likes you or not. It's all out in the air, and things can go back to being normal. That is, when you decide to act more mature about it. If the boy is always nice to you, that means he does like you.
Your cousin may be lying when he said he didn't. He's just being a stupid boy! Don't be such a drama-queen!
Better show you are mature enough to handle some teasing; if you want to date someday! Your cousin is just messing with you. When you act like it doesn't bother you, it takes all his fun out of it.
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