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writes:I think a guy where I work likes me but I'm not sure. He treats me differently from everyone else (he's not my boss) in that he seems very protective of me in the workplace and is always stressing that if I have problems with certain people at work to let him know, namely specific men! He's concerned about 2 particular guys bothering me all the time about a project but it's kind of weird why he's so interested, although they do work for him. To the point where it's not really necessary! He even asked me if they were 'overstepping the mark' in any way. The other day, one of the guys sat next to me to go through a couple of issues and when I mentioned this to Mr Protective he seemed pretty bothered by it and replied, 'why was he sitting there? He's got his own desk', but then changed the subject after that.I really like this guy and the way he shows his concern is really quite cute. Does he like me or is he just being a 'responsible colleague'? How should I respond, should I play up it by being a damsel in distress or will that put him off? Am I imagining it all? Do men get turned on by being the dominant ones? Advice please guys!
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reader, FloridaCatGirl  +, writes (27 January 2011):
 I meant to reply to this question earlier, but I guess I got sidetracked! Any updates? From what you've told us, it sounds like he is attracted to you. That's why he gets so jealous when other men in the office pay attention to you.
He may have more of a reserved personality, especially since you are colleagues. Therefore, he may not feel comfortable asking you out. Have you given him any signs that you like him? Perhaps you can ask him out to lunch, so the two of you can get to know one another outside of work. If you don't have the same lunch hour... why don't you ask him to accompany you to happy hour.
Please update us and let us know if anything has transpired since you posted your question. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2011): If a guy likes you he will ask you out. Other than that, be professional at work and ignore your boss who seems to be acting inappropriately. Don't encourage him either. Just do your job, go home and date men who like you.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (4 January 2011):
 It feels like I would be more worried about him and his territorial displays more than I would be about the other two guys who are bothering you (assuming they are single). It all feels a bit heavy-handed on his part and a little control freaky too. Just my first impression.
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