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writes: Will someone please tell me why is it so hard for a man to forgive a woman if she steps out. I loved my boyfriend very much and was faithful to him for years. He was married when I met him and was suppose to be getting a divorce. Not only that, I had to deal with him livig in the same home with her for years. He said he was working on things but he was having a hard time money wise. There was a time when I even offered to help him, but he told me he wanted to do it on his own. He really seemed like he loved me a lot,but he just took to long. I waited on this man 3 and a half years and nothing changed, so I dated someone else for a few months, but it didn't work out. Now mind you the first guy said he was divorcing his wife wheither he was with me or not because of her unfaithfulness. He said it had nothing to do with me, this happened before me. Well , he said I really hurt him because of what I did. I really feel bad about it and would love to be with him, but he no longer has feelings of love for me. He said he used bitterness to get over me. I believe he is seeing someone else. The total years now has been 6 years since i met him. Out of 6years I only dated someone for 4 months. I feel bad because I hurt him and have pleaded for another chance,but after I told him the truth he even stop calling me. I guess I will never know if he was going to go on and divorce his wife when he had came to me to see if I still wanted him in 2007. I didn't give him an answer at the time, but it seems to me if he was going to divorce her anyway he would have went on through with it no matter what I said, and if he loved me the way he said he did why would he put his life on whole that long. I have forgiven him for all the times he told me he was getting the divorce and never did. To think that someone else has taken my place really hurts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009): I absolutely agree with Gina. This man has been stringing you along all the time. He doesn't have any intention of getting divorced, and he's got quite a nerve getting annoyed with you. I mean, he's cheating on his wife with you and possibly at least one other woman and he more or less accuses you of cheating? Words fail me.
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