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writes:My boyfriend and I have taken a 2 week break which I really need to sort out my thinking. First I love him and do want to be with him but here is the dilemma... He is very emotional and when he gets angry he runs away and goes into his man cave which can sometimes last for weeks. I have been thinking this past week... My thoughts are... I thinking he does this to distance himself from the relationship. I think he is very scared to of deep commitment. I thought he loved me because I had the key to his house and he wanted me to move in... but I thought it was too soon. Now, when he gets angry/upset he will not talk about it, he just says he is hurt and needs time. It is almost like he is punishing me since he will not deal with it. Do you think he is just afraid of commitment, thinking I will hurt him OR do you think he is doing this just so he can do what ever he wants? The last incident we had... he had got some great valentines day gifts but after that I saw him out and got jealous (had wine) and over reacted. He said I was disrespectful by doing this and it hurt him. So he is mad and said he is teaching me a lesson and he went to all these great events without me. He really did not accept my apologies. Is this abusive behavior (I feel like he is punishing me like a child) or is he just him giving himself a reason to run and hide again? He will be back soon and will call but I don't know what to do. Help
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (25 March 2009):
Any one who said that I needed to be "taught a lesson" or "punished" would not see me for dust.
It's disrespectful and patronising.
It seems that this is who this man is. Sulky, childish and happy to talk down to you and put you on the naughty step.
If you are happy being with a man like that then stay.
If you think you can do better (and I would put money on the fact you can) then go.
Good Luck!! xx
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