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writes: Why does my boyfriend do this? My boyfriend flew into my state monday but his flight was delayed so instead of getting in at 5pm he got in at 3am. I had class until 9pm, and then he called me asking if I was going to meet him at his apartment at 3am so I could see him. I said no because I was tired, had work early the next day, and he lives an hour away! Plus, if he was going to get in at 3am I probably wouldn't see him until 5am! He got mad at me and said most girlfriends would stay up to see their boyfriends if they hadn't seen them in 6 months (by choice he moved to a different state when his job can go anywhere). I told him most boyfriends wouldn't be okay with not seeing their girlfriends for 6months in the first place. He was supposed to take me out last night to celebrate my birthday-that he forgot about two weeks ago, and since he's been in my state, he hasn't even called me! I know he's doing the game where he is seeing if I will care enough about him to call him, but he's the one who got mad at me for not seeing him when he flew in. Also, it is my birthday he forgot. Am I doing the right thing by not calling him? I think it is all so stupid because he leaves on Sunday, and I truly believe that he is going to be prideful and stubborn and just not try to see me the whole time he is here-and I haven't seen him in 6 months!!! What would you do, and does this obviously mean he doesn't care? Why is it this hard? I even wished him a safe flight and everything was completely fine and we were excited to see each other until his plane was delayed. Why does he do this??!! Last time this happened he didn't call me for ten days. It's already been two days. Should I just not give him a chance this time? It's getting ridiculous and it is so much drama. Reply to this Question
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (4 February 2011):
 If his flights had been cancelled or even delayed getting in as he has claimed should be easy enough to check with either the airlines or the airport.
If you think it would ease your mind ask them. Either way he is still acting like a tantrum throwing toddler and it could be time to take what you can from the experience of being involved with him and then move on.
Best wishes for your future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe called late last night and left a voicemail when i was sleeping saying that im unbelievable and how he dropped my bday present off at goodwill-but he could have called me! and he said he was flying back to his place today instead of sunday, saying that on this trip he found out that i didn't really care about him. i kind of think his flight never even made it here because it has been below zero the last two days, and he just lied about being here at all. i texted him this morning saying that he was the one being unbelievable and he hasnt responded
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (3 February 2011):
You state your age as between 26 and 29 so I am going to assume your boyfriend is in the same age range and not some wet behind the ears kid, which is just what he sounds like!
It is not considerate of him to expect you to rearrange your life at the last minute because his plane is delayed. A mature person would realise that a plane being delayed could impact on other people.
For him to be home and not contact you after two days is just not on, you ask why he does this, and that last time it was for ten days ... its because thinks he can treat you like that. He is throwing a toddler tantrum, do you really need a kid like that in your life?
If he leaves on Sunday without contacting you I would take that as a sign he doesnt care .... and move on.
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