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writes:I am so confused! Been with bf only month and a half but in that time spent two weekends together and dates in btw. He even wants to go turkey with me in a few weeks!never been with his exs/ Plus when we have sex now its more gentle in a sense, more love.His actions demonstrate hes mad for me as i am for him. I.E can't stop staring, kissing, cuddling, talks about personal things, we do have alot of sex, hes protective- carried my suitcase, showed me how to use undergroudn and made sure i knew my way back the next morning. He put his hand on my back when another guy checking me out , in the theatre it was so busy so he walked in front whilst grabbing my hand. alot of cuddles even in the theatre.But he can't talk about emotion. Couldn't say i looked nice and that hurt as i put alot effort in to look hot for him. Same time he could't even say what he liked about the theatre show yet he wouldn't stop talking about. Like i said him and emotions is hard.His senior worker asked him today where did you go yesterday. His response- to the theatre. Didn't mention went with my gf. It feels like a kick in the teeth. Am i liking him too much ? we've spoke about my feelings before and he will sayhe likes me to but can't say. Yet i feel confused, i went london yday to spend time with him, ironed his shirt for work etc we work but now this makes me think maybe it's all me.Only one person knows about me and that's a mate he told before our first date. That's it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2014): I wouldn't look into it too much. Let him come around/redeem himself on his own time. My boyfriend did this too. We dated (non committally) for about six months. I wanted it to be serious but he had his reservations. So I gave him space and let him be. Never pressured him or brought it up. just enjoyed him as we were. It took six months but he came around. We are now fully committed and live together. It took about a month after living together for him to bring me up to his family and friends. But when he did, it was with so much conviction and commitment. it was genuine. At times I felt like you do but at the same time I felt there is no need to rush things. Just enjoy him and get to know him. Introducing you to family and friends may be a big commitment to him, he may not quite be ready for just yet. But if you are sure he has feelings for you, then don't fret and rest assured it will happen over time. Remember, slow and steady wins the race.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2014): Hi all thank you for your responses.
Sorry i didn't make it clear, first time we met half way, second time weekend away, he travelled further to pick me up and drove us to wales on a friday night instead of going out with work mates per friday.
other times half way (well little bit extra for him) this was the only time i went to his home town and he went and collected me.
I am worried about asking as i will seem like i'm nagging. same time it makes me wonder if i do mean anything
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2014): Hmm, 6 weeks is a very short time to think of him as your boyfriend. You guys only spent 2 weekends together , why not all 6? I wouldn't rush into talking feelings with him. See how it goes. Men are slower than women in a feelings area
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (14 November 2014):
 Its only 6 weeks, far too early to be ironing his shirts let alone worrying why he hasnt mentioned you to people.
Maybe he wants to give the relationship a little time, let it grow a little, get you KNOW you a bit better maybe, after all six weeks is such a short period of time.
Stop pushing it, and if you are the one doing all the traveling to and from London, stop doing that as well. and try and relax about it all a bit.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2014): Yes people are here to give advice but the easiest thing to do is simply ask him about this very thing that is causing you strees and anxiety about your feelings.
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