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writes:Heyyy cupid!Okay so here's my issue I just can't stop thinking about. I have fallen head over heels for this boy who is a year older than me and we are both so into eachother. I am a sophomore and he's a junior. We have been dating for more than 4 months now and things are great. The thing is that he NEVER tells me he loves me. He told he me loved me once and that was the first time. After that he hasn't said it at all. I think the only reason he said he loved me was because I told him I didn't want to have sex until we felt the same way. So a week later he tells me it which I thought was strange. But when we hang out we just hang out then have sex then he goes and does something else and we don't even lay together. It just bothers me that he doesn't say I love you to me. I feel like he just uses me for the sex but I would hate to think that because he is such a sweetheart. I guess what I'm trrying to ask is, why doesn't he tell me he loves me and is he just using me?2
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reader, GoGreen126 +, writes (31 March 2010):
I think he felt like it was too soon for you to really mean it, so he didn't have to either. He got sex in the deal, too--all the better. My guess would be that he's "using" you, as you'd define it, but he would never think of it like that.
If I were you, I'd go talk to him. Tell him what "love" means, and make it clear that you're serious, not just some ditzy 16-year-old. If it scares him off, he's using you. If he doesn't get why you're talking about it, explain that you feel unloved. If he says that he didn't mean it (and he might, some guys ARE honest like that) then take that for what it is and work from there.
The last thing you should do is scream and cry and accuse him of ANYTHING. Stay poised and to the point.
Message me if you have questions,
Best of luck,
--GG
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (31 March 2010):
You've only been dating for four months. Realistically, it takes time for these feelings to develop to a point where you can be sure how you feel. That said, when you said he was on a sex ban until he felt the same way, he suddenly said it. So I'd say that on this occasion he could be playing you for sex.
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reader, Myrrh +, writes (31 March 2010):
 Speak to your boyfriend and ask him if he loves you. And get him to explain what it is about you that he loves. It does sound strange that he only said it once and that was a week after you said you wouldnt have sex unless he felt the same. He may just be a sweetheart because hes getting what he wants. You have to really talk to him about it and judge for yourself if you think he loves you or not.
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reader, Yassy91 +, writes (31 March 2010):
I think you should be careful with that.maybe u should of waiten a little more 2 have sex with him.It cud be he doesnt love u or dats just the way he is .everyone is diff showing their feelings
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