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writes:There is this man in who sometimes leads my group. Recently, after stating at the beginning of the meeting that he expects all must participate and give a lot of comments by raising their hands, chose to not allow a certain female whom he often ignores, to comment also when she raises her hands repeatedly? He gave plenty others many chances, even more than once or twice. She's just like everyone else. and they even compliment her on her views. He did eventually gave her a view. And at one time when she was not indicating to comment, after trying numerous times, he called her out to comment. Then he said "oh, i thought you were indicating to comment". Her hand was not up, because she had given up trying. It was in a room full of a few people. And he was saying at the beginning, that this should give everyone and opportunity to comment and answer questions as much as they waned. What are you opinions (not his reasons, since you can't know), but what are your opinions on why he does this? This is not the first time this happened. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionits would be quite obvious, that if she has always had a chance, then he would. But its stands out as odd because she rarely gets a chance by him. that's why there is a question about it. and he treats her different. she's neither persistent or annoying. no one thinks so. everyone is always wanting to be around her because she does not complain about anything. she has a rare illness with a lot of pain too. and yet, she does not complain to anyone. she's just always smiling and know when to talk. she barley talks sometimes. this man has known all of us for so many years, he seems to be ok with her, then next minute, he's weird around her. poor girl.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (15 November 2011):
 If all of you as a group have noticed this problem with him well then maybe a few should take him to one side and ask him why he is doing this. It is unfair behaviour on his part because he is singling this girl out and ignoring her opinion like it is worthless. It could be possible that this girl is just to persisted and he wants to hear from others in the group as well and not always her. Sometimes a person can give to much and maybe he wants to give the others a chance as well.
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reader, Mariab  +, writes (15 November 2011):
 This question keeps popping up! Maybe the girl is over-eager? Believes that she knows more than everyone else? Is annoying? Is too persistent? I think NOONE knows. Perhaps ask him? xx
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