Why does she have time for friends but not for me?

A male age 41-50, *bot writes:

I have a girlfriend that is really unique. We started dating about 6 months ago. She has always been very straight forward with me. But, I did not know that she was in a gay relationship with another female for two years until about in our second month of being together. We hit it off great I thought I found the woman of my dreams she loved to do all of the things that I love to do until recently. Will come back to that in a minute. We hit it off like crazy and really wanted to marry her from the minute I meet her. In fact ended up pregnant about three months into the relationship but miscarried the baby after 6 weeks or so. I accepted her telling me about her gay reltionships but really thought she was open minded because she was with me now. She loved doing things with me all the time. She started having problems with her emotions about a month ago with her ex and seeked out other friends for help. She never really had any because of her relationship with her ex and all of those ties became broken after they broke up. Now she has meet a couple of new friends from school which she will finish in about a year, and has began hanging out with one of them alot. She to is gay which brings up my questions. When she started having emotional problems she started telling me things like I really am "Jonsing to be with another woman", and the time we did spend together has or is slowly dwindling. For expample she is going on a trip next weekend with this girl camping, and tonight after working almost a 12 hour day was so tired when she came home she just wanted to go to bed. But then her friend called and suddenly said I am going out clubbing with her tonight. I confronted her on this about 5 days ago and said hey what is going on. For example she was always moving to the other side of the house and texting with her and I thought it was because she did not want me to see what she was saying. The time last week we could have filled into a 30 minute show and yet she was texting her friend. So when I confronted her about it she said there is nothing like that going on and that she was helping her to get over her ex. Which is fine by me I can understand that and belived that. I understand woman work through breakups differntly then men and that her friend proabably is helping her on that front. In fact she said if I want to I can read her text messages back and forth between her and her friend if I feel uneasy about that relationship. In fact this week I found out that I could possibly be going out of town for a couple of months to work and she really does not want me to go. My question is I am I being a chump here? I feel hollow in side and hurt that she is not making plans to do stuff with me and drops everything to go hang out with her friend. I feel jealous but dont want to be if that makes sense and dont know what to do? Part of me wants to hang on and see if what she is telling me, and another part wants me to end it so I dont get hurt like I have before being to nice to the girls I go out with and them walking all over me. So I guess I am torn and would love to hear another view on this subject.

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