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Why does my partner fall asleep during oral sex?

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Question - (4 August 2018) 1 Answers - (Newest, 5 August 2018)
A female United Kingdom age 22-25, anonymous writes:

My partner has done exactly the same, fallen asleep during a blowjob! This is the 2nd time now he has done it, I’m starting to think it’s me that’s making him fall asleep whilst giving him a boring blowy. I know I’m rubbish at giving head as it is but he really wanted it and I wanted to make him feel a little special as we never do oral often! he is the only person that I have ever given head too, he’s really big (downstairs) and it hurts my jaw seconds in to it, I’ve only ever given him 3 blowys since we have been together (a year this month) he’s 31 and I’m 22 so he is a lot more experienced at sex then me but I can’t help but think it’s definitely me doing something wrong? But he always says he’s enjoying it so I’m so confused right now! Also 2 weeks ago I ended up having to take the morning after pill because we accidentally slept together on my ovalation day, he didn’t ageee with it but he stood by me, since then we have had sex about 3-4 times and he won’t cum in me or cum at all he always makes sure that I orgasm and finish of but then turns round after and says to me he’s either too hot or too tired . He told me the other day the reason he hasn’t been Cuming is because I went a head and took the pill (which I ended up not even taking due at all the stress I just forgot about it until it was too late)! He’s just woken up normally he would put his arm round me and say Iloveyou and cuddle me but tonight’s his just woken up turned over and fell back to sleep? I don’t know maybe he is really tired and I’m just overthinking or maybe he is acting a weird. I just can’t sleep tonight, it’s just going round and round in my head. Is it me doing this wrong? Am I boring? Do I confront him about it? Or do I just act like everything is fine? I just don’t know???? any advice ladies or has anyone been in this position before? I feel completely hopeless and disappointed in myself!

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (5 August 2018):

Honeypie agony auntCould be that he really IS tired, or that you take too long giving head.

You won't know unless you ask him.

And while you TALK about it - ASK him HOW he likes a blowjob, to help you do the best you can.

IF he is kind of big & thick... I would suggest you use your hands more instead of trying to "deep throat" him. Just use your mouth for the tip (after all that is where the most nerve endings are).

Also, IF he says he is REALLY tired... he PROBABLY is really tired. I don't think many men turn down a BJ from their GF even if it isn't "porn-star worthy" UNLESS they are actually REALLY wore out.

And for goodness sake USE condoms! You NEED to not only have BEEN on the pill about a cycle (so a month) before the pill will be as effective as possible and that is ONLY if you TAKE it when you are SUPPOSED to.

So stick with condoms for now. (and the pill).

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