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writes: My ex girlfriend used to like commenting on guys she sees on telly whenever shes with me. Like, 'oh im so sorry, but ive got to tell you that this guy is absolutely gorgeous!!'. I usually just go, 'yea, he is' but am recently asking myself why the hell did i put up with all of that? I just dont understand why she feels the need to put me down. Its not only comments on guys that I get from her, there was this one time when I was trying some sunnies on and she said I looked butt ugly in them..I believed her at first but when her sister saw them on me, she was like, 'wow, you should so get that!'. Would appreciate a different outlook on this. Thanks.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (16 August 2006):
 Have you asked her to stop? My girlfriend used to do this and I realized I'd rather she kept it to herself. So I just said "Please don't tell me how attractive you find TV and movie actors when we're watching them, I don't really like to hear it". She was surprised, but then stopped doing it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2006): I found a good resource on this to help you i hope the admisn will allow the link:
http://relationshipadvice.advancedsearch.org.uk/3562.php
You need to dump her, IMO, its out of order, put downs is bullying and not constructive criticism and it can lead to suicide so i say get out of there! I know you are thinking thats an extreme thing to say or maybe exagerated, but suicide because of bullying and putdowns is more common then you may think.
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reader, camille  +, writes (15 August 2006):
 Hmmmmm, lots of people comment on people of the opposite sex (I personally never do, nor does my boyfriend and we find it disrespectful), but the "butt ugly" comment, that's uncalled for. It's harsh, rude, mean and very inappropriate for anyone to say let alone a partner. The good news is that she's your ex so just be glad to be away from such a cruel selfish person. Not everyone's the same but know your self worth and don't put up with anyone putting you down, as you may start believing it and that's not right.
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