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30-35,
*weetthing
writes:Second week at work and I have had issues with some people.This man at work who is usually very quiet, he's a old school man, he doesn't get involved with office politics. I just found out that behind my back he has been protecting me. telling my manager i've been doing a good job. another worker was piling me with his work, he sorted it out for me.Today there was dogs and i was scared i screamed, he got infront of me and distracted the dogs made sure they were not near me. Yet at times he is sooo ice cold to me. But protects me why?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2012): Hey all thank you for your response .
I took it on board, today i did dress professionally sexy made effort. and a part of me thinks deep down he does like me because way he treats me- some times the tension and today i needed help badly. no one helped me he came over helped me, helped me again later. he keeps staring at me but we both break eye contact.
Today he teased me infront of every one in friendly banter- but later we had a chat and well hmm. i just asked if i had done anything wrong about yesterday he asked what about. then mentioned work .
i said thank you and he just goes. deep down i do think he protects me he doesn't protect the other newbies and they are as young as me some really bad lol.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2012): This is your second post isn't it? You posted what is with the mind games and got no reply..
I think you like him and though he is a nice man who does nice things I.e. helping you by sticking up,for you etc, it may well be, he doesn't want this going any further than that..
I'd say go with the flow, why be all tears over this.. You've only known him two weeks, does he have a girlfriend wife maybe? Why not ask him, maybe that's why he keeping you at arm length..
Take care
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (16 November 2012):
 He's a male
he's old school
you're a female.
Males protect females. Old school polite behavior.
And example: The men in my office still let ladies get off the elevator first. It's strange in a purely work environment when we try so hard for equality but even the younger men in my office defer to a lady on the elevator... it's weird cause they don't do it for other doors...
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (15 November 2012):
He's probably just a decent guy who's out to do the right thing. I also wouldn't read too much into it. And perhaps don't say anything to him either, as sometimes guys like this can get a bit shy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2012): Because he's a quiet guy who doesn't want any trouble, or to look like an instigator or a grass, but also doesn't think its fair what is happening to you.
Don't read too much into it, just have a quiet word with him and tell him you know what he's been doing for you and you are grateful for what he's done.
No big deal.
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reader, DV1 +, writes (15 November 2012):
 He sounds like me. He's cold to everyone, but he does the right thing when it counts the most.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2012): perhaps he's just being nice, this week my friend's boss did all the work for her, I just think he was being nice, sometimes I do things for co-workers just really to help them,could be that he's just being nice, or he likes you but in the company you work you can't have romantic relationships with co-workers so he keeps his distance but helps you out anyway or he just took pity on you, cause you're the new girl...
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