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*nsideTheFire0603
writes:My girlfriend and I have been together over a year, and we are now both 16. We have talked about sex and decided to wait until we were both of age, and also decided to use a condom. However, the other day her best friend had sex for the first time and told my girlfriend it was the most painful experience of her life. This scared her, even though she says she still wants to do it, but I am scared too because I don't want to put her through that. Is there anyone who can shed some light on why it hurts women so much? and also is there any way of making it less painful for my girlfriend? Thanks
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reader, InsideTheFire0603 +, writes (8 March 2009):
InsideTheFire0603 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank You(: and I already broke her hymen a few months ago when I was fingering her and I was terrified cos of the blood:P And we already do loadsa foreplay, so hopefully she willbe moderately okay:) and we're very close as well, we just didn't know whether the time was right or not. Thank for all your advice guys:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2009): you sound really lovely, and its great that you care for her so much... i've found that it didn't hurt at all because we were both ready, i loved him and trusted him with all my heart, my hymen wasn't in tack from ballet, and i felt completely relaxed and comfortable around him we had been spent the night together naked so i was used to being really close... just be slow and gentle, keep everything relaxed and don't worry if you don't manage to have sex the first time... prehaps spending some time just snuggled up next to each other naked may help to make you feel more comfortable xx good luck
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reader, MyDestiny  +, writes (8 March 2009):
 it's because it's her first time..and she's tight down there
and she'll it's common for them to bleed their first time because when you insert them you break their hymen..that's normal
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2009): it hurts because your basically tearing through a piece of skin, & the fact that your putting a large object in a small hole that's not use to that size. your breaking her hymen( if its no already broken from sports or tampons). its kinda like putting a whole cucumber down your throat (im sorry its so grafic, its the only thing I could think of). make sure she's comfortable & relaxed & use lube, the wetter she is the less painful it will be. she may experience some pain anyways but just be sure to be gentle & stop when she asks.
its so nice that you care about her enuff to not want to put her in any pain! kudos for that! there's not too many of yall around anymore:D
hope I helped. xoxo.
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (8 March 2009):
 Lots of foreplay and taking it slowly is the key to making it less painful. It hurts because you are stretching muscles and tearing skin as well as bruising areas that haven't been bruised before.
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