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writes: what does a man get out of withholding a commitment and engagement from a woman that they are in love with?why is it that they keep changing the goals that a woman much reach before they get to the point where they make the committment? why do men always want everything they want out of a relationship but nevermind what the woman wants? as long as he gets what he wants out of it, it appears that it is not important to him if the woman getss what she wants. i believe this is called selfishness. why does a man call it "nagging" if the woman has to fight to get what she wants. do you women out there get sick and tired of a man always wanting his way? what is the best way to deal with a man when he is always changing the cirteria for the woman he will marry? Reply to this Question
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reader, realguy +, writes (13 October 2006):
I know you were appealing to other women for this answer but I think you will probably only get an honest clear answer from a guy, especially a guy who was guilty of the same as your boyfriend. That would be me. My incredibly perfect beautiful girlfriend of two years wanted to get married badly but I delayed using every excuse under the sun to put the whole subject to the back seat. It wasn't until finaly that she asked me to marry her with real tears in her eyes that I broke down and finaly conceded. We have been in marriage bliss now for the past year. I guess what I am driving at is to try to stop the nagging, fighting, excuses, etc and just "get to it". Put it out there plain and simple, what you want, why you want it and when you want it. Let him explain in honestly without fear of being attacked what he wants, why and when. He will either wake up and realize that there is nothing to fear and everything to lose by saying no or will finaly tell you that he has and will NEVER have any intention of marrying you or anyone else for that matter. Cut to the chase and make an honest man out of him. That's what happened to me and we laugh about it now. I wouldn't change a thing. Good luck !
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