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Why do these weird things turn me on when I masturbate?

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Question - (1 June 2012) 3 Answers - (Newest, 5 June 2012)
A female age 22-25, anonymous writes:

Alright, so I am a 16 year old girl and I have been dating this guy on and off 4 almost 2 years now.I really feel like I love him, a lot. He is like the perfect guy for me. But I have a small problem.... I kinda masturbate... A lot..... Like once a day at least but sometimes even three times a day... It's really embarrassing to even be talking about it(hence y I am doing this anonymously). I feel really bad about it sometimes. And it's really weird. I have never told anyone about it, no friends or family or anything. It's not like I use or even own a dildo but I do have a massage thing that I use, sometimes it dies thou and I just use my fingers. But what really weirds me out is that I can't get off thinking out my boyfriend or anything. I mean we are really in love but we are taking it really slow cause I am so shy so we have never even made out, but small kisses on the lips(and he was my first/only kiss btw). But when I do masturbate I watch videos ot read manga(japanese comics basically) on my iPod. What weirds me out even more is that i am really turned on by the really weird stuff. The bondage, the threesomes, the orgys, the pregnantcy ones, ect. But I really don't want to do any of that stuff cause u want to be faithful and only ever do it with my boyfriend that I truly love. So is it normal for a 16 year old girl, in a perfectly normal, non-sexual relationship to be into this kind of stuff? I mean I don't want lose my virginity until I am ready, which is definitely NOT now, so why do I like these kind of thing? And why do they turn me on?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2012):

its completely normal dont worry.

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A female reader, DanceInTheDark Canada +, writes (1 June 2012):

DanceInTheDark agony auntBecause you're a hormonal teenager. Human tends to be sexually drawn to the taboo, so the more 'weirder' it is, the more thrilling it is. Porn can be kind of like a drug, you need more taboo, graphic things to get off because you get desensitized.

It could be you just like it because it's sexual, or you could just be really kinky. Which is normal too. Most people fantasize about things they'd never want to do.

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A female reader, carolines9711 United States +, writes (1 June 2012):

I understand where you are coming from. I am 15 myself and I masturbate about the same. Different things turn on different girls. I mean some of the stuff you said turns me on but I don't want to do it either. Not yet anyway. Don't worry. You are normal. Masturbation is a touchy subject for girls (like you and I)and the mention of it makes us blush. But a lot of girls do it but they just don't admit it.

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