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writes:why do some girls not let go completely ?? pardon me if i sound rude but i am depressed because my girlfriend has become panicky after i broke up with her and wants to stay my close friend ...where as i dont believe in friendship after breakup and wont accept it come what may ...we sat and discussed about it for several hours yet she still wants my presence in her life .. i am sorry but i have suffered a lot and am tired of being a caring person... i want to get rid of her now please advice .....i know she will never let go completely and will ALWAYS STRING but i want complete freedom...
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2009): I find myself in the same situation so I know how you feel. Truth is you are not strong enough to confront the issue (neither am I),
You want to deal with it like a bandaid but she won't let you so it's like an open sore that doesn't heal. Everytime you take her back your self esteem takes another hit.
If she is anything like my g/friend then she probably doesn't deserve you but you make the tough decision.
To be brutally honest, you will never find happiness or success if you don't make the decision to toughen up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2009): dude that is because she does not have anyone else in her life now. if she did she'd drop you like trash immediately. so do yourself a favor. maintain no contact with this girl. it's not good for her and definitely not good for you.
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reader, alphamale  +, writes (30 April 2009):
being friends after a breakup never works out. Being on speaking terms is another story, but being friends doesnt happen. for the optimist it may. But i am a realist it has never worked for me. It's best for both of you in the long run to cut off ties completely. whenever a girl you're breaking up with tells you "but we can still be friends" nod and walk out, literally
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2009): Sounds to me if you really did want to cut it clean, you wouldn't have this issue. You must have some level of desire to keep some contact up. Do you feel obligated to respond to her communications?
Try keeping your own no contact rule in order to have the nothingness you want.
One party setting forth an edict of no contact requires no negotiation. You just have to follow through. She can pursue you all she wants and it won't bother you after you decide she doesn't exist.
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