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writes:Why do relationships fail? I just got out of my third relationship... I never had flings or affairs and I have been totally committed to the men I've been with... but, invariably, all my relationships seem to come to an end... this is devastating for me... I feel like I will spend the rest of my life going through men and never get married... I truly loved him and now he left me. What should I do? Someone please help me...
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2006): What eyeswiden open said about looking for common threads and thinking about what went wrong in those relationships, is good to think about. ALSO, HotAdvice was right on target when she said you (we) have to be happy with who we are as people, and able to be independent and not reliant on someone else.
I would add that its important to know what you're looking for in your next relationship. Perhaps make a list of 10 things you "must have" and then list 10 things "you can't stand" for the next time. For instance: I must have someone who has a sense of humor....honest....is willing to support me emotionally....AND I can't stand....someone who is rude, belittles people.....can't manage his money....etc. eharmony is a site for people who are looking for more serious relationships.
Think, too about where you meet men. Bars? Activities you are interested in, social events like tennis, bowling, whatever it might be where you may meet someone who shares some of your interests. Interests is part of it, but more important is to have similar outlook on life, and values and goals that you both share, or agree about.
Hope this helps!
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reader, Hot (Advice) +, writes (26 July 2006):
 Oh blimey, here we go again, ANOTHER one who is not satisfied until they are in a relationship. Men are NOT the answer to happiness love. YOU are, and you need to get out of the rut you are in and be happy with who you are rather then relying on others to make you feel good. Who cares if you are single for now? What the heck is the rush? It's always better to be single wishing you were married rather then married wishing you were single...
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (26 July 2006):
 Maybe you should sit down and think about what went wrong in each of these relationships. Was there a common thread? If you can isolate the problem(s) then you know what you need to work on or look for in your future partners. You do know that you have to go through a few relationships sometimes to find the perfect guy for you. Don't dispair I'm sure you'll find him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm 25 by the way...
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