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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2010): It's in our nature. We are programmed to seek out the best of everything we can find in a mate.
Once upon a time this meant the women who would make great child-bearers and men who were the least likely to die when in combat with animals and predators.
Fat people were generally not part of this equation. So we still have that evolutionary trait, though as the survival of the species is not so dire anymore, we have no reason to use it.
But it exists and some people are still driven by it, however deep down.
And some people are just arseholes. Though its natural to want a prospective partner to live as long as possible and obese people, generally speaking, do not live as long as others.
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reader, Odds +, writes (11 October 2010):
 Most people don't care if someone is fat unless romance is involved. Some people either develop unpleasant personalities due to romantic rejection (for being fat), or have no self-control or self-respect to beging with (and so they get fat), but for the most part no one cares, and lots of fat folks are just fine emotionally.
If romance is involved - well, except for a minority of fat fetishists, people want to date thin, healthy, attractive people. Women aim for that .7 waist/hip ratio, guys aim for that V-shaped back. This is normal and healthy attraction for hormonally optimized men with better genes and women who are more fertile, and no amount of "fat acceptance" movements can change that hardwired desire.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (11 October 2010):
 Fat or larger people are stereotyped just like many others. People tend to think that they are lazy and are that way because they choose to be. Now I have to say that a large or in fact any person that doesn't take care of themself really bothers me, but some people are naturally large and still healthy. The thing that is important is personality and the sad thing is that large people really have to work to show people while thin people the personality seems to come second.
Another thing is that some people are just not attracted to larger people while some are. It's a preference thing even though it seems like large people have to work twice as hard to find someone.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (11 October 2010):
 At the risk of sounding like a complete buffoon and an inconsiderate jerk I will offer my perspective.
Women are beautiful, every single one of them are beautiful. Perhaps it is because we grow up in an age where everyone tends to think they know what is feminine or masculine, perhaps that is why women are adored. A straight woman would kiss another straight woman for fun, for curiosity perhaps but with everyone, or at least, most people, would think it fine, but a straight man would think differently about it, the fact being that even women find other women beautiful but men in no way can ever find another man as appealing or at least aesthetically pleasing (Please do not take that last phrase in a demeaning way. I do not wish to offend anyone). A physically beautiful woman shows that she takes care of herself and that she is confident. Larger people tend to give off the impression that they do not care for their own bodies, no matter how beautiful their soul is. A beautiful woman has a beautiful soul which is why some people find it is a complete turn off if someone is snobbish and rude because that is ugly and it will make you look ugly no matter how physically gorgeous you are.
Accept that we are sexual creatures, we are made for reproducing, we tend to go after someone who looks like they take care of themselves well, hence, the physically beautiful, people who excercise or eat healthy (There is a clear difference between those who care for their bodies and those that starve themselves to be thin, that is ugly). But do not lose hope.
I have a friend who is obese, but she is beautiful in every other way. She was one of my best friends and she has a boyfriend now, she is still the same weight. Never look down upon yourself just because others around you find you unlikeable. You are beautiful.
I hope that helps.
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